Absolutely. You've got the space.
What you are saying is a good description of the fragility in which a lot of this work seems to reside. I've often wondered what that is about, but when I consider how early in life a child's needs must be met, it is not out of the realm of possibility to feel them later in life.
I think your awareness of the delicate nature of separating consciousness of yourself from others is accurate. I had to work pretty hard at it for a few years before making the kind of distinctions I'm able to make now. With that awareness also comes a sensitivity that can seem burdensome at first, but which ultimately allows me to process a lot more of the pain I carry around.
I think whatever helps distinguish oneself from others is worthwhile, even if it is as slow and demanding as you have described. When I feel myself fully, it is a great gift. Although along with that can come real feelings of fear, they can also become signs that I'm just beginning to understand what it means to trust someone else.
I hope you are patient with yourself and allow whatever you need to emerge, even if just for a while so you can get used to it.
Lose the drama; life is a poem.