Mike, thanks for bringing this over to the main forum from Books. Clearly things do draw more attention here.
In fact I would like to not only encourage everyone to post on those "other" forums, like Music & Films, but also to bring things from there over here for more exposure & deeper discussion.
Rick's quotes from "The Dark Side of the Inner Child" really hit the nail on my head
! Sometimes I've tended to "look for trouble where it ain't and make trouble where it aren't."
There is a joke that goes something like: "Just because you're not paranoid doesn't mean people aren't out to get you."
For me I guess I would say that I lived for way too long with the idea that: "Just because I am not catastrophising doesn't mean that things are'nt going to get REALLY BAD!"
Bob, that's me too, bro.
I like this phrase: "If you're wrong it's paranoia
if you're right it's intuition (the inner voice)!"
Having said that, Big Victor & Little Victor are coming to an agreement that there's enuf trouble around already, and we're trying to see & live the NOW, in a more positive way.
I suppose one fortunate outcome of this is that I've become more aware of the anxiety and, perhaps, my fear of commitments. When you're not feeling good about yourself these issues might not make themselves present. Only when things are going well and then when they suddenly crumble do you then realize the true nature of yourself. So at least something positive came out of this.
How true, Mike, and I'm glad you're trying to live in the NOW and see things in a more positive light. Facing our fears, knowing ourselves, these are key to recovery for us all.