Glad to hear things seem to be turning around.
Discovering a mate with a similar history, can only be positive, I would think.
For me, I now value only those who can offer support, and the rest cannot help me so, painful or not I let them go. If time changes things so be it, but my recovery and my support network come first.
Trust is a tough one, for survivors, and also for repairing broken trust. All I can offer is... time and daily self checking. Thtis is how I have slowly built trust.
Take a few moments to be aware of how you're feeling, in particular those moments you question giving trust. Ask yourself if the feelings are true for you, or if it old stuff clouding your judgement. I found that it has mostly been old stuff getting in the way of my happiness. This regular realization happens wicker each time for me, and I remind myself of this and how the suspicion fades.
Not sure who said it, but it is true for me.... "This too shall pass".
Good news, relatively speaking.
Keep well, and keep at it.
I am not my name, or my history, or the contents of my mind, I am the awareness behind of all this.
Formerly Adam A Gedman (AKA - A damAGed man)
But you can call me Kevin