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#457007 - 12/18/13 11:52 AM New member
timetorecover Offline


Registered: 12/11/13
Posts: 12
Loc: Mi
about a month ago I did a little search for a new therapist because I moved. I had a list of choices and had them ranked in order. The first one was available and i spoke with her briefly on the phone and decided to try.

I've seen her for four weeks now. One the very first visit she commented that I seem to be troubled by my abuse and that i had more work to do. I was suprised. Me? I have spent years in therapy with 2 very good therapists. But I saw the truth in her statement even in that first session. She said that I could be "healed". I always thought that I could only be kind've healed. I can truly be a survivor and not a victim. I noticed that I still have this "victim mentality".

then I started (recovery) all over again.....getting books, searching on-line, all that good starting stuff. I realized that I missed a whole lot of stuff. and the one thing i noticed I never thought of, or tried: was to get "survivor group therapy"....or also a forum like this one.

So I have found a group.
I have checked out books and read stories by survivors
I have been looking at this whole part of my life with the help of the eyes of my new therapist.

Even though i have been a bit down, apathetic, for a while and still, I am feeling charged by these recent events.

hopefully this website will provide for a part of my healing.

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#457009 - 12/18/13 12:40 PM Re: New member [Re: timetorecover]
MarkH Offline


Registered: 11/19/13
Posts: 15
Loc: Florida/Maine
Welcome TimetoRecover! I am certain that you will find support and understanding here. I know I have! Mark H

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#457024 - 12/18/13 04:52 PM Re: New member [Re: timetorecover]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3362
Loc: O Kanada
hi and welcome to ms.org.

now that you have made the time to recover,
i hope you find this site a supportive and spiritually safe space to recover.

plenty of survivors willing to share recovery techniques.

some may work for you at this stage in your life.
others may not fit your current stage of mind.
protect your self at all times,
but stay open to suggestion.
beware of hair triggers and land mines.
please try to remember, as you wander these perilous pathways, past posts of pain, that the anti-personnel devices you encounter are not personally targeting you.
many, if not most of them, were buried long before you stumbled on them, and are not designed to wound you with their shared shards of emotional shrapnel.
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Victor|Victim

War
Love
Poetry

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#457049 - 12/18/13 11:02 PM Re: New member [Re: timetorecover]
Jude Online   content


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1565
Loc: New England
Welcome timetorecover!

This ain't exactly a health spa, but alot of us have found help from our peers here. i hope you do too.

Jude
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Everyday is a winding road
I get a little bit closer
Everyday is a faded sign
I get a little bit closer to feeling fine.
Sheryl Crow

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#460862 - 02/16/14 01:10 PM Re: New member [Re: timetorecover]
timetorecover Offline


Registered: 12/11/13
Posts: 12
Loc: Mi
not exactly a health spa!!!! made me laugh! :-)

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#460874 - 02/16/14 03:48 PM Re: New member [Re: timetorecover]
Adam A Gedman Offline


Registered: 08/12/13
Posts: 188
Loc: Canada
Hello timetorecover,

I am sorry for your reason to be here, but glad you found us.

What can I possibly offer to someone who has years of recovery work under his belt?

Perhaps a fairly recent realization for me.
The benefit of a site like this, and I would assume similar group settings, is not in the telling of our stories, although early on very important. It's the providing support to others that can be most beneficial. Empathy for our fellow survivor.

Welcome, and I hope you can derive great value in sharing what great insight you likely already have.

Keep well.
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Presence is the key, for all we have is now.
All we ever have is right now.

Formerly Adam A Gedman (AKA - A damAGed man)

But you can call me Kevin

Toronto Mini WoR - May 2014

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#461240 - 02/21/14 06:37 PM Re: New member [Re: timetorecover]
timetorecover Offline


Registered: 12/11/13
Posts: 12
Loc: Mi
Thanks Adam

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#461270 - 02/22/14 11:21 AM Re: New member [Re: timetorecover]
OCN Offline


Registered: 02/05/13
Posts: 270
Loc: Western Europe
He timetorecover

Glad to read you've found a good therapist, even though it meant going through all of it again. I really wish you a lot of support and help on your healing journey!

Welcome on MS!

Pieter
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Trust me, you are worth it to love yourself!

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