Hi everyone. Esposa approached me about having a Family and Friends Healing Circle chat. With enough participants, this is certainly doable. Below are the guidelines used in other Healing Circle chat groups. How does idea sound to you all?
In order to promote orderliness and a sense of safety in this environment, some structure and rules have to be in place:
•What is said in the room stays in the room. Confidentiality is important in dealing with sharing sensitive subject matter. If you wish to share about yourself in any threads, then that is totally up to you. The exception will be information we wish to be shared to enhance the site or site management to make MaleSurvivor safer or more effective as a place of recovery.
•Check out with the room before leaving for the evening. Dropping out without a graceful exit tends to raise questions with others like “Did I say something wrong?” If you must leave quickly, try to send the facilitator a quick PM and he can pass that on to the rest of the room. Try also to understand someone may be having technical difficulties that necessitate an unplanned exit.
•No personal attacks or name calling of any kind on other members of the circle. We are all looking for support here, not criticism.
•Information gained from sources outside of the circle (i.e. chat, PMs, etc.) should not be disclosed inside the circle. Confidentiality should be maintained as a two-way street.
GROUP INSTRUCTIONS AND ADDITIONAL INFORMATION
Meet in chat at start time and you will be invited into the private Healing Circle room.
Below is some information on how the meetings work, please print this out so you can reference it during the meeting.
When we start the Group, there may be some short announcements before check-in time. Afterwards, when check-in time has arrived, type “CI” if you would like to do a check-in. If you feel inclined to pass, simply type “CI pass.” Check Ins should be a sentence or two about how you are doing
REQUESTING FLOOR TIME
If you have a specific issue to share for the evening which needs some length of time, during check-in time would be the best time to indicate that time is needed for sharing. Simply state that you could “use some time” or “need time.” In a two-hour time frame, the maximum number of people who “need time” is best kept at four or less. If we have eight people needing time, no one would get any productive sharing or feedback for the evening. If there happens to be time after everyone has shared, anyone else who wants to share will be notified via PM that there is X amount of time left if they wish to utilize this.
Always type “done” when you are finished sharing feedback, questions, etc, for your turn. This indicates to the facilitator that the next person can be called upon to share their feedback, question, etc.
If you feel compelled to offer feedback for someone, simply type “FB” and when the last person who was sharing types “done” you should be called upon next. Once in a while a person may get skipped amidst the managing of a busy room, and one of us relies on another to keep us up on who requests feedback, so please be patient if you were overlooked, and you will be called upon. If you are the one who is sharing a specific item and desire no feedback, please let the room know by typing “