I think it has been helpful for me to have great friends and role models in my life who embody and practice many of these healthy characteristics. In addition, they encourage me to practise them and believe in my ability to do so.
Keep working on it my friends and make these points a part of your day to day mindfulness when encountering thoughts, feelings, and actions relating to your sexuality. You had your first chance to develop a healthy introduction to sexuality stolen from you. However, that does NOT mean that you dont deserve to take your life into your own hands and afford yourself an opportunity to undo the damage and develop a healthy sexuality.
H.U.G.S.- Helping Us Grow Spiritually