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#382054 - 01/10/12 11:52 PM Re: Hi guys - I'm the dirty little hero [Re: zraver]
Mono16 Offline

Registered: 09/04/11
Posts: 12
Loc: Ma.
Great honor to hear what you did. I commend you

#383708 - 01/28/12 08:08 AM Re: Hi guys - I'm the dirty little hero [Re: Chase Eric]
SkyClad Offline

Registered: 01/27/12
Posts: 10
Loc: Saskatchewan
Yes, you are a real hero. I know it, the girls you helped know it, and hopefully you really believe it.

I am a retired educator and not quite so retired psychotherapist. My blog sites are "Through a Jungian Lens" and "SkyClad Therapy."

#458108 - 01/06/14 03:50 PM Re: Hi guys - I'm the dirty little hero [Re: Chase Eric]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 5224
Loc: O Kanada
Eirik the Great!

thank you for sharing this story of survival and strength.
your intro really does give good insight into your character.

you are a hero.
and the boy wonder avatar is awesome.

it is an amazing and inspiring history.

something you said struck home with me.
when i gave the abuser what he wanted, i did feel like i was manipulating him.
this gave me a false sense of power and guilt.
because i didn't really want to do it, i felt conflicted and complicit.
as an adult, i now see that i was being coerced into compliance.
the fact is, i only committed those acts
in order to "manipulate" and appease the abuser
in order to avoid assault,
and not because i wanted to.

it was self defense and desperation.


#458146 - 01/07/14 07:03 AM Re: Hi guys - I'm the dirty little hero [Re: Chase Eric]
WriterKeith Offline

Registered: 12/30/10
Posts: 975
Loc: southern California
Wow, Erik.....I never knew. You are an amazing, impressive, and inspiring man. You're a real life hero.
"A burned bridge can be a gift; it prevents us from returning to a place we should have never been."

#458826 - 01/17/14 05:38 PM Re: Hi guys - I'm the dirty little hero [Re: WriterKeith]
Chase Eric Offline

Registered: 10/25/10
Posts: 1931
Keith, Victor -

I so appreciate your kind words of support. I thought this thread withered on the vine long ago; two years have passed since I started it.

Click my pic to see why I'm here.

#471881 - 10/29/14 04:34 PM Re: Hi guys - I'm the dirty little hero [Re: Chase Eric]
Sonata1 Offline

Registered: 10/25/14
Posts: 29
Loc: PA

Thanks for sharing this. I'm remembering "the greater love has no one than this, than to lay down his life for his friends" passage from Scripture. I believe that, and think it is the essence of the deepest heroism. I know that doesn't make what happened seem less dirty. But I admire you for doing the dirty work. If you think about it, all heroes do what would seem dirty or crazy if it weren't an emergency. It's part of the definition.

Thanks for sharing it. Although my story is very different, this helps me with my own work.


#472517 - 11/14/14 03:02 PM Re: Hi guys - I'm the dirty little hero [Re: Chase Eric]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 5224
Loc: O Kanada
dear eric.

your story is upsetting and sadly familiar.
i totally relate to feeling betrayed by the system and the community.

it seems everyone just sort of hopes and expects
that someone else is taking care of it,
and nothing gets done and the crimes continue,
while people get on with their busy schedules...
schedules that do not include the health and welfare and safety of children.

we survivors struggle with shame,
but society should be embarassed.

i am nothing to them but filthy dirt under an ugly rug.

oops. sorry. perhaps i digress.
your story triggered me, i guess.

my belated codolences on the loss of your childhood.


#483279 - 06/02/15 09:10 PM Re: Hi guys - I'm the dirty little hero [Re: Chase Eric]
intochange Offline

Registered: 02/13/15
Posts: 11
Loc: Ithaca, NY
The dirty little hero rings so true, not that I was in any way for any one a hero, but I was a dirty little boy for sure. At 81/2 I went from happy, naive and trusting of all but my abusive father, to sullen, cunning, manipulative and overachieving to hide the disgusting person inside.
58 now. My heart pounds when I write this to you. Thanks.

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