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#457970 - 01/04/14 11:43 AM But...
concerned_husky Offline

Registered: 08/29/12
Posts: 727

Edited by concerned_husky (08/30/15 06:44 AM)
Edit Reason: Reducing ties with MS.

"What is to give light must endure burning." - Viktor E. Frankl

#457975 - 01/04/14 01:16 PM Re: But [Re: concerned_husky]
Cthulhu Offline

Registered: 06/13/13
Posts: 146

This is really honest and it hurts to read.
“what matters most is how well you walk through the fire”
-Charles Bukowski

some context

#457997 - 01/04/14 08:39 PM Re: But... [Re: concerned_husky]
bey Offline

Registered: 01/28/10
Posts: 357
Loc: canada
Oh husky
I hear you. They have hurt us in so many ways. Different in some ways, same in others. But the outcome, the confusion, the ambivalence, the hurt, the pain... thats the same stuff.
I am glad you are here, telling your story.
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me.

#458051 - 01/05/14 05:51 PM Re: But... [Re: concerned_husky]
Rich1967 Offline

Registered: 07/17/13
Posts: 439
Loc: PA

Having love and sympathy for your abuser is something I have never had to deal with but I can see that it does complicate things. I have fellow survivor friends who struggle with this too. Our abusers are human beings and having some feelings for them seems reasonable to me. Maybe they are the way they are for a reason. The things we do as victims hurt others sometimes but don't we still deserve love and sympathy from others? It's the love and support from my MS friends that has helped me get to where I am today. I think our abusers need that kind of support too or they may not have any hope of recovering but do they need that support from their victims? There are enough people in this world to give our abusers the support they need. If our abuser is actively hurting us then we need to do what we can to protect ourselves. Those actions may also be the best things for our abusers as well.


I love what you write. Paints a very clear picture of what many of us struggle with.

"Me too" - I don't think I will ever get tired of saying or hearing these two words.

My Story:

#458084 - 01/06/14 09:32 AM Re: But... [Re: concerned_husky]
bluesky Offline

Registered: 08/04/13
Posts: 355
I want to say so much but it is to hard. There is to much pain all I can do is send you a(((((hug))))).

Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain."
Frank Herbert

#458206 - 01/07/14 07:32 PM Re: But... [Re: concerned_husky]
Shyshark Offline

Registered: 10/30/12
Posts: 601
Loc: Canada
As one who also writes I really know how long this must have been in the making ...
especially that you rhymed it.
The feelings are there ... but how to voice them is fleeting ... confusing.
Trying to write a new line is difficult when the emotions from the previous one haven't settled down yet.
It's very hard.
Bravo ... it's an impressive piece of work.
If you remember ... although my situation was much different ...
my abuse was also in the form of 'seduction'.
It sure screws you over in a different way doesn't it.
You told your story very well and filled it with excellent expression.
You have been heard.
For this my friend you deserve ...

a standing ovation.

I'm sure some smarty-pants (yeah ... I'm pointing at you victor_victim!) :P
could include a clip of clapping hands ... but sorry husky ...
I'm too dumb and don't know how.

Experience is a brutal teacher.

#458221 - 01/08/14 02:24 AM Re: But... [Re: concerned_husky]
concerned_husky Offline

Registered: 08/29/12
Posts: 727

Edited by concerned_husky (08/30/15 06:42 AM)
Edit Reason: Reducing ties with MS.

"What is to give light must endure burning." - Viktor E. Frankl

#458228 - 01/08/14 05:01 AM Re: But... [Re: concerned_husky]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 5730
Loc: O Kanada
this is a beautifully written poem about some ugly truths.
it hurts to read.
but it needs to be heard.
thanks for forging this out of the fire in your soul.



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