I've just relocated this post to the Family & Friends Forum, where I thought she might get a better viewpoint.
But she's also asking important questions that Male Survivors might well have some very important points to add, so please pay the Fam' & Fri' a visit and have a look at this post.
And remember to have a regular look there, we can answer a lot of questions there.
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau