Welcome: you will find support here. I will never forget when I told my wife. I was a mess. Each man is different both in what happened and because we are all different. In my case I went for years not dealing with it. I had most of the classic issues, anger, depression, suicide. My wife was very understanding and helpful. She is the one that got me into therapy. I was ready, some are not, I was sick of the depression, and for the most part a very easy going man. What I learned was that there were other men who had a similar experience. This was a surprise to me. In therapy I learned that I was not all that different. I could move on. A lot of my issues with sex, anger, acting out was just a way that I was trying to control things in my life to make up for the time I could not control what was done to me. The last thought is that I was trying to look back at what happened and judge my actions then thru the eyes of an adult. I was not at that time. I was a child it was all orchestrated by the perp. I was deceived, groomed, prepubescent. The perp, was a selfish, self serving, whack pervert. Please also take care of yourself, I suggest you also do much reading and also see a therapist who is experience in male sexual abuse. I will pray for you and your man. It is a journey and takes time, willingness, work.
it is and has been quite a trip thru life, as last I feel that I am in a better place, it takes work and in my case a wife the was and is forgiveing and helpful. At last a relationship has gone right, messed up three.