"If I do not want what you want,
please try not to tell me that my
want is wrong.
Or if I believe other than you,
at least pause before you correct my
Or if my emotion is less than yours,
or more, given the same
try not to ask me to feel more
strongly or weakly.
Or yet if I act, or fail to act,
in the manner of your design for
action, let me be.
I do not, for the moment at least,
ask you to understand me.
That will come only when you are
willing to give up changing me into
a copy of you.
I may be your spouse, your parent,
your offspring, your friend, or your
If you allow me any of my own wants,
or beliefs, or actions, then you
open your-self, so that someday
these wants of mine might not seem
so wrong, and might finally appear
to you as right - for me.
To put up with me is the first step
in understanding me.
Not that you embrace my ways as
right for you, but that you are no
longer irritated or disappointed
with me for my seeming waywardness.
And in understanding me you might
come to prize my differences from
you, and far from seeking to change
me, preserve and even nurture those
From: "Please Understand Me"
by David Keirsey