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#455398 - 11/28/13 10:59 PM Re: Sorry, not sure what to do..hugs [Re: Scottie]
traveler Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3319
Loc: back in the USA
Scottie -

i first registered here in 2006 but i don;t even remember doing that. i think what must have happened is that i got so badly triggered on my first visit that i blocked the memory until just 2 years ago when i came back and thought i was registering for the first time - only to discover that i was already signed up.

take it easy - don't push yourself. we are here whenever you are able to handle it.

once you get past the sensitivity and hyper-triggering it will be better and start to help more than hurt. kind of like getting into cold water - the initial shock is the worst. once you are used to it, you can enjoy it (poor word!) more.

LEE
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We are often troubled, but not crushed;
sometimes in doubt, but never in despair;
there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend;
and though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed.
- Paul, II Cor 4:8-9

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#455433 - 11/29/13 11:09 AM Re: Sorry, not sure what to do..hugs [Re: Scottie]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3076
Loc: O Kanada
scottie,
when i first discovered ms.org it was over ten years ago.
it took me a while to work up the courage to register and post my story.
that messed me up for a while.
then when i started to read some of the stuff in the forum,
i was unable to post anything else.

i simply could not write about my feelings.
i had posted my nightmare story and that was good enough for the time being.

then i stopped coming here for a long time, because i thought i was a cured as i could get and this website was not helping.

after a while i forgot about it.

i went through a few things in my life,
and then while researching my rapist,
i ran across my story on the internet.

i started reading the stories here again,
but i still did not post.
i had no idea what to say.
i was inhibited by fear of rejection, mostly.

another couple of years go by, and next thing you know,
it has been a full decade.
about two years ago i finally achieved forgiveness.
this was such an empowering experience,
i had to share it with the other survivors here.
by then, i had forgotten how to log on,
and could not remember my password.
i had not logged on for so long.
i had to go through the ms.org administration to get back in.

like cold water, it took some time to get comfortable,
but once i started communicating, i couldn't stop.

time is the cure.
keep your focus, stay on target, and take a break whenever you need it.
you are the boss.
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Victor|Victim

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#455482 - 11/29/13 05:06 PM Re: Sorry, not sure what to do..hugs [Re: Scottie]
TMC Offline


Registered: 06/03/12
Posts: 15
Loc: NYS
Scottie,
I havent been on MS in months because I don't like thinking about my past and the horrible things in it. This can be a dark place, but the light coming from it always outshines the dark. The people in this community WILL change you life for the better if you allow them too. There is so much love here it is overwhelming, and amazing. Take your time, and when you feel overwhelmed, come back and youll be happy you did. Stay strong and stay long!
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May the sun shine upon your face and the wind be at your back

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#456019 - 12/04/13 03:07 PM Re: Sorry, not sure what to do..hugs [Re: Banjo596]
Scottie Offline


Registered: 10/25/13
Posts: 13
Loc: North Fort Myers, Florida
Thanks Jeff, I feel much stronger now, and hope it remains.
My best wishes to you and yours.
Scottie
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Hugs and Best Wishes,
Scottie

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#456021 - 12/04/13 03:09 PM Re: Sorry, not sure what to do..hugs [Re: traveler]
Scottie Offline


Registered: 10/25/13
Posts: 13
Loc: North Fort Myers, Florida
Thank you, I will keep trying. Scottie
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Hugs and Best Wishes,
Scottie

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#456023 - 12/04/13 03:15 PM Re: Sorry, not sure what to do..hugs [Re: Scottie]
Scottie Offline


Registered: 10/25/13
Posts: 13
Loc: North Fort Myers, Florida
I see something I did not before. I am stronger today because of those who came and suffered before me.

Saddest hugs for all. Scottie
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Hugs and Best Wishes,
Scottie

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#456028 - 12/04/13 03:52 PM Re: Sorry, not sure what to do..hugs [Re: Scottie]
KMCINVA Offline
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Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 1554
If you feel others pain, you have your own pain like us. We have lived your pain, others have not lived the pain and thus do not understand what we have lived.

Take your time, feel safe and share when you are ready. We all heal at our own pace and sometimes the road is up and down. But lean on us, we are here for you. Many here kept me focused and were there when I was having a difficult time.

Welcome and heal well.

Kevin

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