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#45619 - 12/08/06 04:36 AM Re: 3 weeks sober...
Hauser Offline
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Registered: 11/12/05
Posts: 2962
Loc: United States
Mark, in my 37 years I've known 2 types of drinkers, the ones that can function in our society and the then their are the ones that simply can't.

It doesn't make you "weak" if you can't drink ok? We all come with a huge range of talents/abilities/limitations. My major limitation is that I can't improve my career/working life, although I can drink alcohol and function just fine. But ask me to work on or fix my car? Ha!! I would wreck whatever I was working on and even if somehow I did not destroy the engine or whatever I was working on, there is no way that I could ever figure out how to put it back together! It's all about being different and recognizing your limitations.

So........I'm never going to apply for a job as a mechanic. Does this make sense to you?


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#45620 - 12/22/06 02:24 PM Re: 3 weeks sober...
mark250676 Offline
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Registered: 03/01/06
Posts: 310
Loc: England
Just passed the 7 week mark and would have drunk 1,000 units by now if I hadn't have given up.

But good it's hard today. Work finishes for Xmas today and everyone is talking about how they deserve a drink and can't wait to get into the festive spirit.

Grrrr Even my secret santa present was 2 bottles of beer!

Part of me thinks 'Go one have one drink tonight you deserve it. Everyone else is having one you deserve it to. It's only one. You can have another one after tommorow when you reach another 'landmark''.

But I worry the landmarks will become smaller and smaller again. Only at xmas - Only every 1,000 undrunk units - Only every friday - Only weekends - Only one bottle a day etc etc.

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#45621 - 12/22/06 03:29 PM Re: 3 weeks sober...
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Registered: 11/12/06
Posts: 527
Loc: Marlboro, MA 01752
Stay in the day, not tomorrow. It will get here soon enough.

froggy12

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#45622 - 12/22/06 03:47 PM Re: 3 weeks sober...
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Registered: 07/06/04
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Mark, keep at it, Christmas drinking is out for me, it just makes you groggy.
I watch all the idiots drinking themselves silly, not for me.

Best wishes,

ste

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#45623 - 12/22/06 04:08 PM Re: 3 weeks sober...
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Registered: 05/03/01
Posts: 1563
Loc: Upstate NY
Mark,

Congratulations for taking care of yourself! It must feel good to know that you are in charge of things. We are all proud of you!

Recovery is Possible!

Brian

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#45624 - 12/22/06 06:30 PM Re: 3 weeks sober...
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Registered: 11/13/06
Posts: 17
Loc: Midwest
Mark250676,

Keep up the good work! It is especially important during the holidays to go to AA meetings - as many as you can attend. This is the roughest time of the year, for many people and for many reasons.

I don't mean to sound preachy, but go to lots of meetings. Read the AA literature when you're feeling down. Get a sponsor, even a temporary one. Work Step 1 by using prayer and meditation. Try and get a AA meditation book and have that all-important "Morning quiet time" of prayer and meditation. Keep the book with you and say some prayers and read something at lunchtime. Then go to a meeting after work (if your working). You'll be amazed how peaceful your day goes after taking that morning quiet time. And get phone numbers of people at the meetings who seem like they've got some sobriety time. Call them when you get the urge. Oh, and last but not least - exercise! I didn't bother when I first got sober - big mistake, 'cause it really improves your mental state by providing more energy and less depression as the what's called 'dopamine' gets released into your brain after 40 minutes of exercise. Its a natural anti-depressant. Plus exercise will help clean out your system as well.

Good Luck,

Chairman201


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#45625 - 01/12/07 09:45 PM Re: 3 weeks sober...
mark250676 Offline
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Registered: 03/01/06
Posts: 310
Loc: England
OK guys 9 weeks twice not sober. Sorry.

Having a fall out with my wife now and part of me realises that I've blown it out of proportion for an excuse to have a drink.

Ah this stuff sucks!

Was gonna type why can't I be normal but I know the answer.

Probably shouldn't be posting as I'll write some stuff I'll regret in the morning.

All the best guys.

Mark

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#45626 - 01/12/07 10:06 PM Re: 3 weeks sober...
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Mark, from one of the heaviest drinkers, you have done well thus far.
Taking it out on the wife, hurts the kids also, so be careful of their welfare.

You have done well, but make it up to her,

ste

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#45627 - 01/13/07 03:27 AM Re: 3 weeks sober...
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Registered: 08/08/06
Posts: 1948
mark no reason to be sorry...hang in there steve


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#45628 - 01/13/07 05:35 PM Re: 3 weeks sober...
mark250676 Offline
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Registered: 03/01/06
Posts: 310
Loc: England
Made up with the my wife and feel good today.

Thanks guys as ever your support and advise was great.

Mark

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