Wow, F - !!!
that is a HUGE step - and i am so impressed that you went through with it. i hope it is a big weight lifted off your mind. and i believe it will be a significant transition to a new phase of being real and honest - not only with your wife - but also with yourself. sounds like she handled it really well. i'm sure that must have been a major worry for you. be prepared for some awkwardness at times - but just try to do what you can do. talk when you feel like it - ask for a pass when you need to. but it is great that you have another supporter. you may need to teach her what you need. maybe have some things for her to read to explain some of the common patterns of survivors' behavior, etc.
anyway - congratulations on your courage - and keep up the good work!
"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"