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#456963 - 12/17/13 07:43 PM Re: So the secret is out... [Re: Sven]
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Registered: 07/29/13
Posts: 258
I will try to look up more 'grounding techniques' tomorrow... Or later today i guess, thanks.

I didn't want to talk to B. I know it's not a good idea, he calls me or this time he waited for me after school.
What exactly happened or what he said I don't know, i simply don't remember. Wich freaks the hell out of me to be honest.
I don't really have a plan other then to move out at some point next year and see if i can shake B. off.. And hoping i can get trough this trial thing against my father unharmed and with as little as involvement from me as possible.

I e-mailed with a dutch helpline about chat counseling but it's hard to find a time that works. Might consider e-mail counseling instead. Who knows. It;s a start, i guess. I can't talk about this shit or even have to be in the same room as them so idk, this is the only option for now.
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In the howling wind
Comes a stinging rain
See it driving nails
Into souls on the tree of pain
From the firefly a red orange glow
See the face of fear
Running scared in the valley below
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#456964 - 12/17/13 07:44 PM Re: So the secret is out... [Re: Sven]
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double post
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In the howling wind
Comes a stinging rain
See it driving nails
Into souls on the tree of pain
From the firefly a red orange glow
See the face of fear
Running scared in the valley below
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#456967 - 12/17/13 09:43 PM Re: So the secret is out... [Re: Sven]
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Originally Posted By: Sven
I e-mailed with a dutch helpline about chat counseling but it's hard to find a time that works. Might consider e-mail counseling instead. Who knows. It;s a start, i guess. I can't talk about this shit or even have to be in the same room as them so idk, this is the only option for now.

This is great news Sven. Please do is as soon as possible (you need any help available no matter is it trough mails, chat, phone or directly). And yes it is an important start and I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you to get involved and share all what you have and get support. It doesn't have to be one on one and in personal. You can and should ask them too for disocciation triggers, grounding and similar...
Keep us updated and please send that mail ;-)

Pero
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#457006 - 12/18/13 11:51 AM Re: So the secret is out... [Re: Sven]
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I will have my first chatmeeting next week friday. Let's see how that goes, i guess
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In the howling wind
Comes a stinging rain
See it driving nails
Into souls on the tree of pain
From the firefly a red orange glow
See the face of fear
Running scared in the valley below
~ Bullet The Blue Sky - U2

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#457083 - 12/19/13 05:32 PM Re: So the secret is out... [Re: Sven]
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I'm pretty sure something happened. I'm not sure what to do about this though. Gah.
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In the howling wind
Comes a stinging rain
See it driving nails
Into souls on the tree of pain
From the firefly a red orange glow
See the face of fear
Running scared in the valley below
~ Bullet The Blue Sky - U2

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#457085 - 12/19/13 05:35 PM Re: So the secret is out... [Re: Sven]
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Tell us if you'd feel better. You can always send me PM Maybe it is easier to find some solution when beeing in company of surviovrs...
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#457088 - 12/19/13 06:16 PM Re: So the secret is out... [Re: Sven]
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I'm not sure it's more a feeling then that I can say 'well i know we went there and this happened and he said this and then i did that' kinda thing.
Like uhmm i remember talking to him outside school, remember going home... wich was from his direction not school's direction.. a few hours later.. So i doubt we just had tea and watched a movie. Idk. I hope i am wrong but i dont think so.
Wich makes me feel even more mad at myself and disgusted with myself.
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In the howling wind
Comes a stinging rain
See it driving nails
Into souls on the tree of pain
From the firefly a red orange glow
See the face of fear
Running scared in the valley below
~ Bullet The Blue Sky - U2

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#457171 - 12/21/13 05:46 AM Re: So the secret is out... [Re: Sven]
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Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3007
Loc: O Kanada
no doubt you are experiencing a whirlwind of powerful emotions that are threatening to overwhelm you one after the other.

just try to let them flow through you.
don't let them collect and cluster.
let the crows fly over your head.
don't let them nest in your hair.

i am sending you my best wishes.
glad you are taking positive steps.
keep the communication lines open.
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#457499 - 12/27/13 06:52 PM Re: So the secret is out... [Re: Sven]
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So I broke my wrist (again) today (friday).
It was B's fault this time. I didn't say anything at the hospital where I got my cast but I'm thinking about talking to the police.
He is obviously thinking he can do anything and that I won't tell anyways... But it's freaking me out. I'm not sure how to go about this or if I will even be able to say anything if I made an appointment or what will happen and if i'm even going to be able to prove anything, what if they want revenge and so on.
My mind is a chaos. I missed the chat appointment, too because of this but i just said i broke my wrist and will try to reschedule.. I hate feeling so scared and panicked
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In the howling wind
Comes a stinging rain
See it driving nails
Into souls on the tree of pain
From the firefly a red orange glow
See the face of fear
Running scared in the valley below
~ Bullet The Blue Sky - U2

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#457512 - 12/27/13 10:54 PM Re: So the secret is out... [Re: Sven]
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Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1466
Loc: New England
Dear Sven,

No matter what you do about reporting B, please, please, please, make it very clear to him that you want nothing more to do with him. And then stick to it.

This broken wrist should make it very clear that B wants nothing good for you. Next time it could be worse. Get him out of your life before its too late.
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Said the joker to the thief,
There's too much confusion, I can't get no relief."
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