Victor is right honesty = intimacy, the whole dynamic of our marriage changed with that one act of me telling all, suddenly all of the things that my wife could never quite square fell into place, links were made and realizations occurred.
Its not a panacea but you know what? its a damn good place to start.
Good luck James and hope that it goes well for you
Go back?" he thought. "No good at all! Go sideways? Impossible! Go forward? Only thing to do! On we go!" So up he got, and trotted along with his little sword held in front of him and one hand feeling the wall, and his heart all of a patter and a pitter
J.R.R.Tolkien, The Hobbit