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#454626 - 11/21/13 08:46 AM Re: hi [Re: BuffaloCO]
kevin308 Offline


Registered: 06/12/12
Posts: 8
Loc: columbus, ohio
First off, I like the Plato quote. I have been in counseling many times, and it has been awful. I've had counselors tell me their problems, tell me to get over it, revictimize me, and other things. I am a counselor by trade, so I know whats proper and what isn't. It's left me jaded and extremely angry towards counseling. Some of my most rageful outbursts have been when I have thought about my attempts to find help. It seems that the counselors are looking for quick fixes, or try to fit me into their particular treatment methodology, even if it's not the right treatment for me. This is also a large part of my mistrust. They are being paid and are supposed to take my side and still they hurt me. I have actually been insulted by one counselor, she called me a "mothers son" (I think we all know what this means). I don't know which way to turn anymore.

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#454627 - 11/21/13 08:54 AM Re: hi [Re: George]
kevin308 Offline


Registered: 06/12/12
Posts: 8
Loc: columbus, ohio
Thanks for the reply. I've started opening up, as scary as it's been. Even replying to people, feel the emotion start coming out of me. I have so much inside me and it scares me. It's been a hell of a five years since i made my thoughts known to my family about my brothers behavior. On top of that, I have been dealing with a very painful divorce. Some days I feel like I could just curl up in a corner and never stop crying. It takes all my strength to keep going and to be their for my ten year old son (Joshua). I'm glad I have him, he keeps me going and when he laughs, at least for a moment, things don't seem so bad. I'm so tired frown. I just keep looking for an answer and there never seems to be one.

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#454628 - 11/21/13 09:12 AM Re: hi [Re: kevin308]
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Registered: 08/31/11
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Kevin

Welcome and sorry you have to be here--but it is great place to help you heal. Sharing and letting it out is an important step in healing. You have taken a brave step in telling your story to your family and I am sorry there reactions were not more understanding. It is a topic many run from and are in denial about. A family member probably further complicates the family emotions. But you are doing the right thing--it is about you and healing the wounds that the abuser left.

People here are understanding and do not pass judgment. Share at your own pace because we all heal differently.

Kevin

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