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#454482 - 11/19/13 07:30 PM Grandfather uncle and father
Frustrated Offline


Registered: 10/28/13
Posts: 192
Sense I started recalling all this shit a little while ago I have recalled three males in my life that sexually assaulted me. I have no idea if they even know about each other doing it. It started when I was 4 and stopped A guess as far as I guess around six. Dealing with this is a struggle. One of them is dead and the other two live across country from me and I have not seen them in 25 years. How does one deal with this

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#454486 - 11/19/13 07:49 PM Re: Grandfather uncle and father [Re: Frustrated]
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Registered: 09/13/13
Posts: 78
Loc: Kansas
Each one of us here deal in different ways, some write letters telling the how you feel and what there actions have caused then they burn the letter for closure. Some go as far as confronting but I would recommend professional guidance on that. My abuser took his own life last year. There is lots of support here so no matter what you decide you aren't alone.
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#454513 - 11/19/13 10:02 PM Re: Grandfather uncle and father [Re: Frustrated]
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Registered: 10/09/13
Posts: 692
Loc: St. Croix, USVI
Hi Frustrated,

Whatever you do, do it very, very slowly. Your stuff will just naturally come up as you are ready for it. Airing and discussing here is a great place to sort things out. I'm 64, and didn't begin to remember my father's sexual abuse until age 53, and didn't begin to remember my mother's sexual abuse until this year. Be very, very gentle with yourself. I think LOTS of discussion here is a great way to get your directional signals in order. Wishing you smooth sailing.

Don
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#454526 - 11/20/13 12:07 AM Re: Grandfather uncle and father [Re: Frustrated]
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Registered: 02/07/06
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Loc: somewhere in Africa
Frustrated -

it is devastating to get those certain memories.

and it is even worse when it is family members who were the abusers. they are the ones who should be most trustworthy, who should be protecting you, who should have your best interests at heart.

you deserve to feel bad about it, grieve the knowledge of the tragedy and the trauma, and to let the poison out. write, chat, vent, whatever you can to process and communicate your hurt and anger. if you can get support from a T - by all means,go for it.

just dont give up.
LEE
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Something deep inside...
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Now I know my life has meaning
Now I see myself as I am, feeling very free...
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#454527 - 11/20/13 12:25 AM Re: Grandfather uncle and father [Re: Frustrated]
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Registered: 10/28/13
Posts: 192
Still processing it all. Idk how to feel any more just num. wish I could just forget it all. Anger is about all I can feel

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