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#453955 - 11/16/13 09:06 AM I feel better when I forgive the people around me
blacken Offline
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Registered: 08/13/01
Posts: 1217
Loc: Northern Ohio
I feel better in myself when I forgive the transgressions of others.

Like here. I understand there are angry guys here. Some don't see themselves as angry, or may feel the constant anger is justified, & it has been a part of them so long, it feels normal. Some feel anger kept them alive through the worst & dont want to give it up.

I understand some guys here are more sensitive to how something is said than had the abuse not happened. I know some guys are sensitive to certain words & rather use abbreviations like "S", "R", "CSA", "MB". There are other words, phrases, sayings, that trigger guys.

I understand that some guys have been beat down for so long, they confront nearly every thought, opinion, calm, cause, utterance now. They perceive most anything that differs from what they think, as a personal attack &/or threat.

I understand guys come from vastly different cultures, speak different languages, raised or follow different belief systems on the origins of everything, were raised with different values, & traditions.

I understand some guys are scared. And that just being here, seems unsafe, unpredictable, uncontrollable.

I understand that as much as I may try, I just may not get along with some one. Our personalities just don't mesh.

I understand that everything I said above, some one may think of me as.

I understand, I don't always say things in the best way. And, I make mistakes. And I understand, some guys may take offence by & pick apart this post.

I apologize to all of you for any transgression I have made.
I will continue to try to approach each of in the best way possible.

I forgive too, all who may have irritated me. I already did at the time it happened, yet I wanted to say it again.

I also know that for me, some people that have hurt me, I'm still working on the forgiveness part. It is a goal for me.
But No one here at MaleSurvivor has ever fit into That category.


Edited by blacken (11/16/13 09:14 AM)
Edit Reason: spelling errors
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#453958 - 11/16/13 09:07 AM Re: I feel better when I forgive the people around me [Re: blacken]
CafeMan Offline
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Registered: 03/18/13
Posts: 150
Loc: Chicago
Bravo!!!! Thank you for posting this!

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#453960 - 11/16/13 09:17 AM Re: I feel better when I forgive the people around me [Re: blacken]
Obi Offline
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Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1309
Loc: kansas
Thank you for this. This helps heal the wounds from the transgressions I have received from several in positions here on MS.

I also need to apologize for my transgressions upon others. I know I have hurt others and I eternally apologize for my actions and ask for forgiveness.
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#453961 - 11/16/13 09:30 AM Re: I feel better when I forgive the people around me [Re: blacken]
Suwanee Offline
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Registered: 10/30/12
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Loc: Southeast USA
Yes.
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#453968 - 11/16/13 10:50 AM Re: I feel better when I forgive the people around me [Re: Suwanee]
sentry Offline
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Registered: 08/11/12
Posts: 58
Loc: Canada
Thank You Blacken!!

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#453970 - 11/16/13 11:00 AM Re: I feel better when I forgive the people around me [Re: blacken]
don64 Offline
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Registered: 10/09/13
Posts: 668
Loc: St. Croix, USVI
Hi Blacken. Your ability to post this is a huge deal for you. I hope you are able to feel from yourself the warm fuzzies this calls for. Don
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#453973 - 11/16/13 11:24 AM Re: I feel better when I forgive the people around me [Re: blacken]
Magellan Offline
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Registered: 12/31/10
Posts: 1401
Loc: California
I have no idea what happened here, but I'm glad this was posted. Thank you, blacken. This was very eloquently written!







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#453995 - 11/16/13 01:12 PM Re: I feel better when I forgive the people around me [Re: blacken]
BraveFalcon Offline
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Registered: 02/25/13
Posts: 1096
Loc: The ATL

Hi Blacken. Thanks for posting this man. A lot of this needed to be said and I hope every member of the board reads it. Everyone needs to. Peace,

Ken

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#454002 - 11/16/13 01:25 PM Re: I feel better when I forgive the people around me [Re: blacken]
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Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3363
Loc: somewhere in Africa
LIKE - VERY MUCH!
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Something deep inside...
I've been searchin so long to find an answer
Now I know my life has meaning
Now I see myself as I am, feeling very free...
When my tears have come to an end I will understand
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#454009 - 11/16/13 01:45 PM Re: I feel better when I forgive the people around me [Re: blacken]
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Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3323
Loc: O Kanada
you have never offended me.
i hope that is understood and mutual.

that having been said,
what you wrote was beautifully worded,
and very meaningful.

i appreciated how deep that was.
i can imagine how much it took for you to put that out there.
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