I feel better in myself when I forgive the transgressions of others.
Like here. I understand there are angry guys here. Some don't see themselves as angry, or may feel the constant anger is justified, & it has been a part of them so long, it feels normal. Some feel anger kept them alive through the worst & dont want to give it up.
I understand some guys here are more sensitive to how something is said than had the abuse not happened. I know some guys are sensitive to certain words & rather use abbreviations like "S", "R", "CSA", "MB". There are other words, phrases, sayings, that trigger guys.
I understand that some guys have been beat down for so long, they confront nearly every thought, opinion, calm, cause, utterance now. They perceive most anything that differs from what they think, as a personal attack &/or threat.
I understand guys come from vastly different cultures, speak different languages, raised or follow different belief systems on the origins of everything, were raised with different values, & traditions.
I understand some guys are scared. And that just being here, seems unsafe, unpredictable, uncontrollable.
I understand that as much as I may try, I just may not get along with some one. Our personalities just don't mesh.
I understand that everything I said above, some one may think of me as.
I understand, I don't always say things in the best way. And, I make mistakes. And I understand, some guys may take offence by & pick apart this post.
I apologize to all of you for any transgression I have made.
I will continue to try to approach each of in the best way possible.
I forgive too, all who may have irritated me. I already did at the time it happened, yet I wanted to say it again.
I also know that for me, some people that have hurt me, I'm still working on the forgiveness part. It is a goal for me.
But No one here at MaleSurvivor has ever fit into That category.
Edited by blacken (11/16/13 09:14 AM)
Edit Reason: spelling errors
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen. ~Winston Churchill
My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style. ~Maya Angelou
Those who understand only what can be explained understand very little. ~Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach