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#371676 - 10/04/11 08:38 PM Re: Hi - It took me approximately 40 years to get here [Re: happybuddha1]
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Edited by lapchinj (03/16/13 04:50 PM)
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#371718 - 10/05/11 08:47 AM Re: Hi - It took me approximately 40 years to get here [Re: lapchinj]
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I was also abused over 40 years ago. I just started therapy about 2 months ago and my doctor wanted me to tell somebody but when I said no, she was very understanding and told me that I would do that when the time was right for me.

I was too embarrased and ashamed to tell them face-to-face as well, especially having cosciously known for over 25 years. What I had to do to be able to tell the siblings that I told was send an E-mail to them. I got replies from both of them within hours. They have proved to be very suportive of me and also agreed with my decision not to tell anybody else.

Before telling them, the hardest thing I everdid was tell my doctor what had happened. The therapy will not be easy, but once you tell about what happened, it will be like you just took a 10 ton weight off your shoulders.

Good luck with everything.


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#371767 - 10/05/11 11:11 PM Re: Hi - It took me approximately 40 years to get here [Re: Sailor John]
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Edited by lapchinj (03/16/13 04:50 PM)
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#387130 - 02/24/12 08:12 PM Re: Hi - It took me approximately 40 years to get here [Re: lapchinj]
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Jeff,

I can identify with how you feel. After I told my wife of 25 years, I felt dirty and immature...child like almost.

It wasn't until I started talking to a therapist, did I feel like a weight had been lifted off of me.

Dan


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#387297 - 02/26/12 12:09 AM Re: Hi - It took me approximately 40 years to get here [Re: DanM]
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Edited by lapchinj (03/16/13 04:50 PM)
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#387314 - 02/26/12 05:39 AM . [Re: lapchinj]
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#387358 - 02/26/12 10:43 AM Re: Hi - It took me approximately 40 years to get here [Re: Life's A Dream]
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Edited by lapchinj (03/16/13 04:50 PM)
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#453775 - 11/15/13 12:35 PM Re: Hi - It took me approximately 40 years to get here [Re: lapchinj]
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40 years seems to be the magic number. it took forty years for me also.

rich

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#453858 - 11/15/13 08:13 PM Re: Hi - It took me approximately 40 years to get here [Re: lapchinj]
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Took me 47 years of searching to find this site and the brave survivors who have come forward from the silence into the light.

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#453859 - 11/15/13 08:14 PM Re: Hi - It took me approximately 40 years to get here [Re: lapchinj]
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I am not alone. We are not alone.

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