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#453442 - 11/12/13 10:33 PM Re: What was the age difference? [Re: jas4159]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3342
Loc: O Kanada
all of my abusers were at least 20 years older than me.
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#453506 - 11/13/13 02:26 PM Re: What was the age difference? [Re: jas4159]
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Registered: 02/07/06
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Loc: somewhere in Africa
many of mine were close to my age - but were more street-smart, stronger, had more status and peer respect, were in positions of authority - teams captains, higher ranks in scouts, more popular or self-confident, etc. the difference to me was not so much about age differences - but differences in power, influence, and social support systems. i felt weak, insignificant, and helpless in their hands and under their influence and control.

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#453564 - 11/13/13 09:59 PM Re: What was the age difference? [Re: jas4159]
mattheal Offline
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Registered: 06/10/12
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Loc: Ohio
Five years. When I first told my mother about the abuse not long after I became a teenager she dismissed it as "boys experimenting". I did not think of what the bastard did to me as abuse for a long time because it was only five year age difference. When I considered the fact he was "an adult" in a physical sense, and I was only eight years old, something clicked in my head. I now call it rape, because that is what it was: John R. Jr. repeatedly raped me.
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#453569 - 11/13/13 10:31 PM Re: What was the age difference? [Re: jas4159]
pittsburgh Offline


Registered: 05/26/11
Posts: 89
Loc: west Chester, Pa
I was 11 he was early 40's. I was taught to respect and listen to adult's. Right!
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#453576 - 11/13/13 10:59 PM Re: What was the age difference? [Re: jas4159]
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Registered: 10/21/11
Posts: 611
Loc: VA
He was a "grownup," dunno but might have been 30-ish. I was a few months shy of my 7th birthday.

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#453699 - 11/14/13 10:55 PM Re: What was the age difference? [Re: jas4159]
Ocellaris Offline


Registered: 06/12/12
Posts: 19
Loc: New York
30 year age difference
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#454298 - 11/18/13 02:49 PM Re: What was the age difference? [Re: jas4159]
atari_kid86 Offline
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Registered: 02/23/10
Posts: 124
Loc: Michigan
First two perps were 2 years older. Step father waz 43. I was age 9-14.

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#454311 - 11/18/13 03:33 PM Re: What was the age difference? [Re: jas4159]
JustScott Offline
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Feel free to call me a liar or that it wasn't abuse or whatever, but the 1st three were younger than myself.

4th was 4 or 5 years older and female. What a lucky kid right?

5th was once like the first 3. Younger. But was the one that was more like a forcible rape than any of the others.

Talk about a massive brainf**k.

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#454411 - 11/19/13 07:19 AM Re: What was the age difference? [Re: jas4159]
frozen Offline
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Registered: 04/26/07
Posts: 22
Loc: Europe
1.I was 6 or 7,he was over 50s.
2.I was 10, he 12
3 I was 15, he 15
Other perps bit older or younger.

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#454423 - 11/19/13 09:07 AM Re: What was the age difference? [Re: jas4159]
Dave PNW Offline


Registered: 04/03/13
Posts: 113
Loc: Pacific Northwest
First was a year younger.....but what he knew put him years ahead of me.

Second was four years older.

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