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#453556 - 11/13/13 09:28 PM Emotions
flightmedic38 Offline


Registered: 09/13/13
Posts: 78
Loc: Kansas
So I thought I would post to see if it is helpful with how I am feeling. The rational 39yo knows why I feel this or at least I have been told it's ok to feel this way. I started recovery in August and between the meds and my just plain stick your head in the sand I haven't been able to cry. I have only cried twice since starting. I was blaming this on the meds but that theory was blown out if the water today. I have been a wreck Tears flowing for no reason.. Hope it stops soon I really hate being emotional it makes me feel week.


Flight
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#453560 - 11/13/13 09:49 PM Re: Emotions [Re: flightmedic38]
mattheal Offline
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Registered: 06/10/12
Posts: 142
Loc: Ohio
Flight,

Where you see weakness, I see strength and progress. I hope you will see that too.

All my best,
Matt
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It's okay to find the faith to saunter forward
With no fear of shadows spreading where you stand
And you'll breathe easier just knowing
that the worst is all behind you
And the waves that tossed the raft all night
have set you on dry land
- The Mountain Goats - "Never Quite Free"

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#453577 - 11/13/13 11:11 PM Re: Emotions [Re: flightmedic38]
unhappycamper Offline


Registered: 10/21/11
Posts: 597
Loc: VA
Flight--

For decades I've had spells of suddenly wanting to cry, or even starting to cry, without knowing why. Usually there didn't appear to be any particular trigger or other related circumstance. All I knew was that I felt a crushing sadness that didn't seem to be "about" anything.

It still happens after 19 years of "recovery," but I find it a BIG PLUS to know WHY that awful feeling hits. Sort of buffers me from the impact. Peace!

John

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#453589 - 11/14/13 12:59 AM Re: Emotions [Re: flightmedic38]
Jude Offline


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1506
Loc: New England
Hi FM,

Yeah the tears came hard to me too, but when they did come I was afraid they'd never stop. 43 years of them stored up is not good for a guy. And as much as I hated crying till my throat was sore, till my eyes were swollen shut, and till snot ran down my face, it had to be done. It had to come out.

Its kind of like how a woman feels when she's having a baby. Once it starts coming it can't be stopped. It hurts like hell. And when its all done you have a new person.
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"I get up, and nothing gets me down.
You got it tough. I've seen the toughest around.
And I know, baby, just how you feel.
You've got to roll with the punches to get to what's real"
Van Halen

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#453601 - 11/14/13 05:13 AM Re: Emotions [Re: flightmedic38]
don64 Offline
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Registered: 10/09/13
Posts: 663
Loc: St. Croix, USVI
Hi FM,

My take is that tears are trapped emotions coming out. ALWAYS a good thing. My training says otherwise, but my training is fucked. I know the tears are a good thing, and I will continue to do my best to unlearn the old and welcome my tears. I have an enormous amount of unshed tears.

Wishing you well,

Don
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Divine Law is not judgment or denial of self truths. Divine Law is honoring harmony that comes from a peaceful mind, an open heart, a true tongue, a light step, a forgiving nature, and a love of all living creatures. Jamie Sams & David Carson, Medicine Cards

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#453626 - 11/14/13 12:34 PM Re: Emotions [Re: flightmedic38]
flightmedic38 Offline


Registered: 09/13/13
Posts: 78
Loc: Kansas
Thanks for the replies worse today than ever before.. Hate myself and this weakness
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#453629 - 11/14/13 12:50 PM Re: Emotions [Re: flightmedic38]
jas4159 Offline


Registered: 06/16/11
Posts: 278
Well welcome to the world of recovery. ONce the flood gates are open there is no going back. You are at the beginning of your recovery and it was the most difficult time for me also. I suspect the crying is you healing and recovery taking its course. It may be uncomfortable and bewildering but i believe we have to learn to feel again in order to reconnect with our wounds and emotions. I came to understand that everything in my recovery became an opportunity for growth and enlightenment.

stay strong.

rich


In my book i tlak about this at length.

justanothersurvivror.wordpress.org if you care to read it - it is free.
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Thanks

rich

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#453663 - 11/14/13 06:15 PM Re: Emotions [Re: flightmedic38]
flightmedic38 Offline


Registered: 09/13/13
Posts: 78
Loc: Kansas
So my emotions today are 100x worse. Tired of the unstableness that is my life. I am truly I the verge of total self destruction....
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#453666 - 11/14/13 06:30 PM Re: Emotions [Re: flightmedic38]
traveler Offline
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Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3356
Loc: somewhere in Africa
so sorry, (((((((Flight))))))) !
wish i could help
- but don't know how.
LEE
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As my life goes on I believe somehow something's changed
Something deep inside...
I've been searchin so long to find an answer
Now I know my life has meaning
Now I see myself as I am, feeling very free...
When my tears have come to an end I will understand
What I left behind: a part of me. Chicago


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#453678 - 11/14/13 08:24 PM Re: Emotions [Re: flightmedic38]
flightmedic38 Offline


Registered: 09/13/13
Posts: 78
Loc: Kansas
:-(
Thank you to all that posted

A special thank you to Rich1967 who has been my rock!!!thank you for always knowing exactly what to say!!! Are amazing.
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