Congratulation Esposa, that's great.
As with alot of posts, they resonate with the reader, as your's did with me, I disclosed to my wife a while back and I have to say that it was liberating, my wife however has suggested that I also do the same with my sister, on reflection I know that she would be supportive but part of it includes my Mother (she wasn't abusive but there were other issues) and my Sister does see her most weeks so I don't want to ruin their relationship so its difficult.
Getting back to your point though regarding feeling alone over the years, I wonder if my wife feels the same since my disclosure which maybe part of the reason that she suggested that I disclose to my sister, I care deeply about her and would hate to think of her feeling like that.
Apologies but I hijacked your thread, good luck for the future to you both.
Go back?" he thought. "No good at all! Go sideways? Impossible! Go forward? Only thing to do! On we go!" So up he got, and trotted along with his little sword held in front of him and one hand feeling the wall, and his heart all of a patter and a pitter
J.R.R.Tolkien, The Hobbit