many of mine were close to my age - but were more street-smart, stronger, had more status and peer respect, were in positions of authority - teams captains, higher ranks in scouts, more popular or self-confident, etc. the difference to me was not so much about age differences - but differences in power, influence, and social support systems. i felt weak, insignificant, and helpless in their hands and under their influence and control.
There’s a special providence in the fall of a sparrow. If it be now, ’tis not to come. If it be not to come, it will be now. If it be not now, yet it will come—the readiness is all. - Hamlet, Act 5, sc 2