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#453322 - 11/12/13 07:51 AM Re: 10 year recovery anniversary [Re: victor-victim]
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Registered: 10/09/13
Posts: 820
Loc: St. Croix, USVI
Hi victor-victim,

Your post is so inspirational to me. AT 64, though I have been working hard on myself since age 20, I did not begin to remember sexual abuse from my father until age 53 and did not begin to remember sexual abuse from my mother until a few months ago. I had never talked to another survivor before finding MS about one month ago. Already MS has been a booster rocket to my healing process. Stories like yours and the continuous process of posts here represent such hope for me. Congrats! Don
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#453329 - 11/12/13 09:29 AM Re: 10 year recovery anniversary [Re: victor-victim]
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Registered: 08/31/11
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You have come a long way. You have helped many with your story, courage and desire to heal and move forward. Thank you and I hope the past 10 years have led you to the life you deserve and not the one the abuser created.

Kevin

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#453368 - 11/12/13 02:24 PM Re: 10 year recovery anniversary [Re: victor-victim]
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Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3546
Loc: O Kanada
thank you thank you.

it heals my heart and gives me hope to hear that i have helped a little.

my life is beautiful, very happy. thanks for the good wishes, kevin, don, et al.
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#453688 - 11/14/13 09:40 PM Re: 10 year recovery anniversary [Re: victor-victim]
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Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3546
Loc: O Kanada
just curious...

is there any other long time (10 years plus) ms.org member still actively visiting and/or posting.
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#453753 - 11/15/13 09:26 AM Re: 10 year recovery anniversary [Re: victor-victim]
George Offline
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Registered: 01/29/01
Posts: 122
Loc: NY metro
I've been here since the start of MS. I'm not a big talker in real life as well as here as you can tell by my post count. I read mostly, I stop by every few months or so.

My healing journey started back 1/5/99, I had a WebTV unit back then, no computer. I stumbled onto some survivors stories while looking for porn one day and I saw myself in those few posts and was blown away. No one was talking about this back then, so it was a huge eye opener for me. The few groups I found were pretty much all women. I joined one and this one woman, Marcy was great, we talked for months back and forth and helped each other. I finally found a new site for men, M.A.S.S.F founded by Noah G that lasted a couple of years, it then fizzled due to too much infighting. What a great site it was at the time I needed it the most. Then MS started & I joined, have been here since. I hope everyone from back in the early days are doing well in their lives, I worry & wonder about some still.

Me? I'm doing very good, I don't know if I can ever get back 100%, there will always be scares, memories & some imprinting. I figure I'm back 85-90% and can live a happy life with that. Coming back here kind of humanizes me again, staying away I slip into the busy cold & callus mind frame of the world. Coming here reminds me of things I'd still like to change if I could, I still would like to feel more comfortable around other men, sure I can put on the face and do it, I'd just like it to be more natural. I'd like to not worry still about being visible, you know the old hiding in plain site, I still hate attention. I do it with work sometimes standing up in front fighting or petitioning town boards but it's extra work for me to get in the zone to do it. Beyond that, almost 15 years and all is well...

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#453818 - 11/15/13 04:34 PM Re: 10 year recovery anniversary [Re: victor-victim]
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Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3546
Loc: O Kanada
wow, George.

thank your for sharing that.
my online experience has been very similar.
there were other sites,
but they have disappeared.
ms.org has weathered the storm.
i am grateful for that,
because i am finally ready to start talking this past year.
i was really unable to open up about it previously.
now i feel safe enough to share,
and i have begun to reach out to other survivors.
decided to start here.

i am very glad you are doing very good.
i am at 90% or better most of the time.
looks like we did ok.

i hope to hear more from you.

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