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#452625 - 11/06/13 12:50 AM Song trigger
Frustrated Offline


Registered: 10/28/13
Posts: 192
A Great Big World- Say Something

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#452763 - 11/07/13 11:13 AM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
Onesimus75 Offline


Registered: 08/22/13
Posts: 158
Loc: Minnesota
Tainted Love always creeps me right out.
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#452770 - 11/07/13 12:28 PM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
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Registered: 09/16/13
Posts: 147
Loc: Surrey, United Kingdom
Marvin Gaye "Flyin high (in the friendly sky)"
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J.R.R.Tolkien, The Hobbit

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#452794 - 11/07/13 06:10 PM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
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"Maggie May" by Rod Stewart.

The whole song is from the point of a view of a teenage boy who has just realized that he's been the victim of CSA from an older woman. Baffles me that people "like" this song; makes me want to curl up into a ball.

Cant
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#452796 - 11/07/13 06:54 PM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
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Registered: 06/13/13
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Loc: Cascadia
Wings Of A Butterfly - HIM

F*ck does that song bring back some memories I wish I didn't have.
Thematically it is somewhat problematic but I think most of my issues have to do with personal symbolism attached to the song.
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#452904 - 11/08/13 11:43 AM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
huon Offline


Registered: 09/17/13
Posts: 6
I don't know if this is what you are looking for, but I've found myself identifying with these songs lately.

"What Love Really Means" by JJ heller-

"He cries in the corner where nobody sees
He's the kid with the story
No one would believe
He prays every night
"Dear God won't you please
Could you send someone here
Who will love me?"

and "Torn" by Natalie Imbruglia

"Nothing's fine, I'm torn

I'm all out of faith
This is how I feel
I'm cold and I am shamed
Lying naked on the floor

Illusion never changed
Into something real
I'm wide awake and I can see
The perfect sky is torn
You're a little late, I'm already torn"

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#452933 - 11/08/13 02:08 PM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
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Registered: 10/28/13
Posts: 192
There are a lot of songs out there that reflect child abuse. I get lost in a lot of them.

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#453453 - 11/13/13 12:05 AM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
Jacob S Offline
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Registered: 01/01/13
Posts: 591
Originally Posted By: Frustrated
There are a lot of songs out there that reflect child abuse. I get lost in a lot of them.


This is true for me too. Kate Bush's song "The Infant Kiss" was a big trigger for me when I first heard it years ago, mostly because I wasn't at all expecting to have to think about it and wasn't prepared. A grown woman thinking a little boy can make her lose control is incredibly triggering to me. I believe Kate Bush when she explains that she's just telling a story and not actually condoning the perspective, but I still hate that song.
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all the people he can trust.
Like the one who stands behind him
cheering him on
Estatic when he stands defiant,
wild with abandon when he's gone

just stay alive.
do whatever you need to.
you are worth it.

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#453454 - 11/13/13 12:26 AM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
DavoSwim Offline
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Registered: 02/06/13
Posts: 315
Loc: Iowa, USA
Songs that are triggering for me are "Everybody Hurts" by REM, and "Elvira" by the Oak Ridge Boys. The former because it's able to touch my heart like no other song can, and the latter because it was a hit on the day I was once abused.

On the other hand, a couple of songs that I find healing are "Thunder Road" by Bruce Springsteen, and "Leaving on a Jet Plane" by John Denver/Peter, Paul and Mary.
It's because it symbolizes me speaking to my 11 year old self, and coincidentally, it was popular around the time i was abused by my parish priest.

Dave

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