I was abused by both a male uncle (I was 11) and female cousin (I was 7 or 8), from opposite sides of my family (mother and fathers side of family).

This caused a serious sexual identity issue. I broke up with my girlfriend at the time, (I later married her) so that I could date guys, which went on for about 2 years. I then got involved in BDSM, and I was serious mess, involved with a girl who I just wanted to abuse me.

I am married for the last 20 years, but I have cheated on my wife numerous times. I have bounced in and out of therapy numerous times.

I came here because a friend had recommended that I could find people who had suffered as I have. I have lurked on this site for the last two or three years, never posted anything.