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#452625 - 11/06/13 12:50 AM Song trigger
Frustrated Offline

Registered: 10/28/13
Posts: 192
A Great Big World- Say Something

#452763 - 11/07/13 11:13 AM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
Onesimus75 Offline

Registered: 08/22/13
Posts: 158
Loc: Minnesota
Tainted Love always creeps me right out.
We are not defined by our faults, or our wounds, but by the truth within us, which nothing can take away.

#452770 - 11/07/13 12:28 PM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
tbkkfile Offline

Registered: 09/16/13
Posts: 319
Loc: Surrey, United Kingdom
Marvin Gaye "Flyin high (in the friendly sky)"
To look up and not down,
To look forward and not back,
To look out and not in

#452794 - 11/07/13 06:10 PM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
cant_remember Offline

Registered: 02/26/05
Posts: 1046
"Maggie May" by Rod Stewart.

The whole song is from the point of a view of a teenage boy who has just realized that he's been the victim of CSA from an older woman. Baffles me that people "like" this song; makes me want to curl up into a ball.

Recovery is possible. Hang in there, brothers.

#452796 - 11/07/13 06:54 PM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
Cthulhu Offline

Registered: 06/13/13
Posts: 144
Loc: Cascadia
Wings Of A Butterfly - HIM

F*ck does that song bring back some memories I wish I didn't have.
Thematically it is somewhat problematic but I think most of my issues have to do with personal symbolism attached to the song.
“what matters most is how well you walk through the fire”
-Charles Bukowski

some context

#452904 - 11/08/13 11:43 AM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
huon Offline

Registered: 09/17/13
Posts: 6
I don't know if this is what you are looking for, but I've found myself identifying with this song lately.

"Torn" by Natalie Imbruglia

"Nothing's fine, I'm torn

I'm all out of faith
This is how I feel
I'm cold and I am shamed
Lying naked on the floor

Illusion never changed
Into something real
I'm wide awake and I can see
The perfect sky is torn
You're a little late, I'm already torn"

Edited by huon (08/04/14 09:34 AM)

#452933 - 11/08/13 02:08 PM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
Frustrated Offline

Registered: 10/28/13
Posts: 192
There are a lot of songs out there that reflect child abuse. I get lost in a lot of them.

#453453 - 11/13/13 12:05 AM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
Jacob S Offline

Registered: 01/01/13
Posts: 617
Loc: where the shadows lie
Originally Posted By: Frustrated
There are a lot of songs out there that reflect child abuse. I get lost in a lot of them.

This is true for me too. Kate Bush's song "The Infant Kiss" was a big trigger for me when I first heard it years ago, mostly because I wasn't at all expecting to have to think about it and wasn't prepared. A grown woman thinking a little boy can make her lose control is incredibly triggering to me. I believe Kate Bush when she explains that she's just telling a story and not actually condoning the perspective, but I still hate that song.
I come here now, and I see lots of anger.
I don't blame anyone for that. It is perfectly understandable.
But it is not healthy for me.
So I'm going somewhere else.

Goodbye and good healing.

#453454 - 11/13/13 12:26 AM Re: Song trigger [Re: Frustrated]
DavoSwim Offline

Registered: 02/06/13
Posts: 357
Loc: Iowa, USA
Songs that are triggering for me are "Everybody Hurts" by REM, and "Elvira" by the Oak Ridge Boys. The former because it's able to touch my heart like no other song can, and the latter because it was a hit on the day I was once abused.

On the other hand, a couple of songs that I find healing are "Thunder Road" by Bruce Springsteen, and "Leaving on a Jet Plane" by John Denver/Peter, Paul and Mary.
It's because it symbolizes me speaking to my 11 year old self, and coincidentally, it was popular around the time i was abused by my parish priest.



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