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#452389 - 11/04/13 02:56 AM I'm New...Hello.
carperson Offline


Registered: 10/30/13
Posts: 12
Loc: Hawaii
Hello. You can call me person if you like. I am a student and am in my mid 20's. I am male. The reason I am here is for my younger brother. He doesn't want an account here, but I hope that by learning about this subject I can help him now. I am very new to the subject and still learning.
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#452390 - 11/04/13 03:24 AM Re: I'm New...Hello. [Re: carperson]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 2972
Loc: O Kanada
welcome, person.

hope you like it here.
there is lots to learn.
take it slow and easy.

wishing you well.
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#452406 - 11/04/13 07:52 AM Re: I'm New...Hello. [Re: carperson]
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Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1248
Loc: kansas
welcome to ms.
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#452458 - 11/04/13 04:10 PM Re: I'm New...Hello. [Re: carperson]
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Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1369
Loc: New England
Welcome Careperson,

You're a good brother. Is he in therapy?

Jude
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I caught a fleeting glimpse
Out of the corner of my eye
I turned to look but it was gone
I cannot put my finger on it now
The child is grown, the dream is gone
And I have become comfortably numb."
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#452498 - 11/04/13 09:05 PM Re: I'm New...Hello. [Re: Jude]
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Registered: 10/30/13
Posts: 12
Loc: Hawaii
Yes. He is. But I'm not sure it's helping him. When I pick him up I sometimes hear the end of his conversations with his therapist. They all seem to be relating to TV, School or other light subjects.
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#452502 - 11/04/13 10:15 PM Re: I'm New...Hello. [Re: carperson]
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Registered: 06/13/13
Posts: 125
Loc: Cascadia
Hey person,

I too am a male in my 20s smile
Nice to meet you!

Being there for your brother will help. It may not always feel that way, but it does. As for T the end of my conversation with my T are about Dungeons and Dragons, Warhammer 40k, or school courses. The starts are also generally trivial. At times most of the session will be. This could be because I am in a good state and don't want to rock the boat too much that session, or because I am going to say or have said something really difficult. Therapy needs to be eased into.

The most important part of therapy is the relationship between therapist and client. Small talk can really be a tool for that.

Another important thing is that you do not -at all- have to understand everything to help. It's OK not to understand and just acknowledge that. You can still help by being there. Being there if he needs to talk about his shit AND being there if he wants to just hang out play video games or whatever it is you two can share.

Also let yourself acknowledge this is rightfully a hard situation for you. It is very hard to see someone you love suffer. Feel free to use this site for your own support as well. There is a friends and family section where others are coping with their loved ones "recovery". Also, feel free to message me if you are feeling you need to get something off your chest. I can listen, or offer my own two cents if you want that.

Sorry to hear your brother needs your support but it is really amazing that you are trying to help him like this. Thank you for being an awesome human being laugh


Edited by Cthulhu (01/03/14 08:38 PM)
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