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#452380 - 11/03/13 10:26 PM One Full Year of Therapy
ThisMan Offline
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Registered: 01/22/13
Posts: 767
Loc: upper south
Another b'day in a few days and this will mark a full year of therapy. Three different therapists, one at a time, until I found one that fit with my personality and experiences. I have gone once a week every week, except for my vacation time. The first sexual abuse was when I was four, the last when I was 50. I started the therapy to become a better man, a fuller man. I will never erase what has happened but I can change my future. Have I been successful? Will I be successful? I don't know, but at least I am trying.

On my b'day on Tuesday, I will be in therapy. What better way to tell myself that I am still serious and committed to a better future. I say to the guys of MS, thanks for helping me, for listening to me, for guiding me as I work through to the others side. I could not have made it this far without you guys.
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For now we see through a glass, darkly.



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#452382 - 11/03/13 10:40 PM Re: One Full Year of Therapy [Re: ThisMan]
cant_remember Offline
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Registered: 02/26/05
Posts: 1039
Happy Birthday, ThisMan.

Look how far you've come!

Cant
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Recovery is possible. Hang in there, brothers.

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#452394 - 11/04/13 04:04 AM Re: One Full Year of Therapy [Re: ThisMan]
risingagain Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 11/09/10
Posts: 595
Loc: Vancouver, BC, Canada
Happy Birthday, Bill!!! And happy recovery anniversary... may your river flow gracefully!

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#452424 - 11/04/13 10:14 AM Re: One Full Year of Therapy [Re: ThisMan]
traveler Offline
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Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3373
Loc: somewhere in Africa
LIKE!

LEE
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As my life goes on I believe somehow something's changed
Something deep inside...
I've been searchin so long to find an answer
Now I know my life has meaning
Now I see myself as I am, feeling very free...
When my tears have come to an end I will understand
What I left behind: a part of me. Chicago


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#452425 - 11/04/13 10:37 AM Re: One Full Year of Therapy [Re: ThisMan]
BuffaloCO Offline


Registered: 07/14/12
Posts: 420
Loc: USA
Hi ThisMan,

Happy Birthday and thanks for your support too. I've been going to individual T off and on for almost 3 years. I've been here just over a year and both have helped me a lot, more then I know how to describe even.

Like you my abuse stuff started when I was really young and went on for years. T has helped me break chains I did not even know were on me, like shame and guilt. It's been almost a whole year since I had a nightmare and I don't worry about them coming back. Even if they do, I know how to deal with them now. Most important, I see me differently then I ever did before.

I don't know what the future holds, but I know it will be a lot better then what I left behind. You are successful. My T told me just to look at where I was and compare it to where I am now when I doubt my progress. Sometimes it's tough, but no way is it like it was before. Thanks for the reminder and congratulations!
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“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark. The real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.” - Plato

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#452427 - 11/04/13 10:50 AM Re: One Full Year of Therapy [Re: ThisMan]
SoccerStar Offline
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Registered: 10/15/12
Posts: 915
Loc: New York
Happy Birthday, TM. It's been a joy to watch you grow stronger and more self-confident since you've been here.
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My story

"Don't think it hasn't been a little slice of heaven just because it hasn't!" --Bugs Bunny

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#452433 - 11/04/13 11:25 AM Re: One Full Year of Therapy [Re: ThisMan]
DavoSwim Offline
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Registered: 02/06/13
Posts: 325
Loc: Iowa, USA
Happy Birthday. Congratulations on the success you've achieved in the last year. Your positive attitude is contagious and inspirational.

Dave

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#452466 - 11/04/13 04:50 PM Re: One Full Year of Therapy [Re: ThisMan]
Jude Offline


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1510
Loc: New England
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I went back to the doctor
To get another shrink.
I sit and tell him about my weekend,
But he never betrays what he thinks.
Can you see the real me, doctor?.
The Who

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#452503 - 11/04/13 10:23 PM Re: One Full Year of Therapy [Re: ThisMan]
ThisMan Offline
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Registered: 01/22/13
Posts: 767
Loc: upper south
AWESOME AWESOME AWESOME VIDEO, Jude!!!!

Thanks, guys, for the boost. I just had this wild fantasy that all those skating babies were us before the "big uglies" got to us... just young and innocent and dancing and skating.... so very cool.
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#452506 - 11/04/13 10:54 PM Re: One Full Year of Therapy [Re: ThisMan]
KMCINVA Offline
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Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 1624
Great to hear. You are right we can never erase the abuse--only learn to accept it and accept it was not our fault. Your attitude is positive and it can be seen in your writing. Acceptance is so important in healing--such a simple concept but locked in the mind of the child within the man.

Best wishes

Kevin

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