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#452351 - 11/03/13 02:31 PM Hello with a smile of joy
Harvey Dent Offline


Registered: 11/02/13
Posts: 28
Hello everyone,

I found this website three days ago and it has had a huge impact on my life. I spent 5nights The first night reading so many stories and so many words of encouragement. Although nothing written was directed to me, your words echoed across the barren half of my soul. Letting me know that I am not alone. That I am not Lewis & Clark making maps of unexplored territory. I am simply the latest to cross the hazards before me. Thanks to you, I have a map to find the destination. Thank you all for the bravery you have shown by baring your heart's, your wounds, your souls, and your darkest desperation.

I am a newlywed (June 21 2013) who has a wonderful wife that knows all of my secrets & loves me unconditionally. She puts up with my destructive side and honestly confronts my pain. But being married has opened up a whole new can of worms that I had never dealt with before and am dealing with now.

I am a a survivor of CSA who has never gone to counselling and has always faced his demons alone...struggling my way towards recovery. I look forward to getting to know some of you. My story has been submitted and awaits Moderator approval. I hope my pain will assist you in confronting your own.
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I am not defined by what is done to me. I am defined by the choices I make.

My story: http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=452346#Post452346

Odds are that I am typing on my phone. Please excuse punctuation and spelling. Editing is a serious pain in the neck.

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#452355 - 11/03/13 03:20 PM Re: Hello with a smile of joy [Re: Harvey Dent]
Obi Offline
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Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1395
Loc: kansas
welcome to ms.

if you do not have the book "victims no longer", by mike lew, I highly recommend picking up a copy.

congrats on your marriage...
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#452364 - 11/03/13 04:59 PM Re: Hello with a smile of joy [Re: Harvey Dent]
Jude Offline


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1600
Loc: New England
Welcome Harvey,

This is a very exclusive club, we don't just let anybody in here. Just men like you..."struggling my way towards recovery". No more facing those demons alone. There are nearly 12,000 guys here who've got your back.

Be well,

Jude
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Seems I've got to have a change of scene
Every night I have the strangest dreams
Imprisoned by the way it could have been
Left here on my own or so it seems
I've got to leave before I start to scream
Joe Cocker

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#452368 - 11/03/13 05:14 PM Re: Hello with a smile of joy [Re: Harvey Dent]
Suwanee Offline
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Registered: 10/30/12
Posts: 758
Loc: Southeast USA
Welcome Harvey,

Yep…I echo the sentiment that I hate the reason you are any of us are part of this club. Like you, I carried a dark secret for years before I was able to truly face it and disclose to many on MS and a select few in person. Without the former, the latter would not have happened.

MS gave me the courage to seek counseling and to tell my wife…and healing continues. It's a continual process.

All the best.

Will
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My Journal

-Signs and traces left in stone
Ruins of a past unknown-

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#452381 - 11/03/13 10:38 PM Re: Hello with a smile of joy [Re: Harvey Dent]
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Registered: 02/26/05
Posts: 1046
Welcome aboard, Harvey. Nice screen name.

Cant
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Recovery is possible. Hang in there, brothers.

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#452391 - 11/04/13 03:47 AM Re: Hello with a smile of joy [Re: Harvey Dent]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3536
Loc: O Kanada
welcome to ms.org, mr.dent...
both of you.

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Love
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#452409 - 11/04/13 08:05 AM Re: Hello with a smile of joy [Re: Harvey Dent]
Harvey Dent Offline


Registered: 11/02/13
Posts: 28
VV, you gave me a chill.

The symbolism is almost perfect....but I didn't choose the name TwoFace for a reason. Harvey Dent is only half of the character. The half who seeks rehabilitation.

To this point, my recovery has been through NLP, Zen Buddhism, and a perpetual self-improvement, and the work of God who keeps me in my darkest hour. TwoFace lacked a benevolent God, but instead had faith only in a malevolent fate.
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I am not defined by what is done to me. I am defined by the choices I make.

My story: http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=452346#Post452346

Odds are that I am typing on my phone. Please excuse punctuation and spelling. Editing is a serious pain in the neck.

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#452491 - 11/04/13 07:23 PM Re: Hello with a smile of joy [Re: Harvey Dent]
traveler Offline
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Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3512
Loc: somewhere in Africa
Welcome, HD!
Originally Posted By: Harvey Dent
Although nothing written was directed to me, your words echoed across the barren half of my soul. Letting me know that I am not alone.

On the contrary - everything written here IS directed directly to YOU. that is why MS is here and why the public forums are open - to give access to everyone who needs these messages. and you have discovered one of the most precious truths already - you are NOT alone. you are a part of us - and you belong.
Originally Posted By: Harvey Dent
I am a newlywed (June 21 2013) who has a wonderful wife that knows all of my secrets & loves me unconditionally. She puts up with my destructive side and honestly confronts my pain. But being married has opened up a whole new can of worms that I had never dealt with before and am dealing with now.

great that you have a good and understanding and supportive wife. but yeah - that relationship also adds another level of complexity to recovery - because whatever you go through affects her too.
Originally Posted By: Harvey Dent
I am a a survivor of CSA who has never gone to counselling and has always faced his demons alone...struggling my way towards recovery.


you are no longer alone - there are over 12,000 others on this journey with you.

LEE
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As my life goes on I believe somehow something's changed
Something deep inside...
I've been searchin so long to find an answer
Now I know my life has meaning
Now I see myself as I am, feeling very free...
When my tears have come to an end I will understand
What I left behind: a part of me. Chicago


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