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#450823 - 10/21/13 02:42 PM I am not Alone
Chris1974 Offline


Registered: 10/15/13
Posts: 2
Loc: San Francisco California
Found this site last week after struggling for years on my own to try and forget and move on from the abuse that happened to me as a boy. Still not sure what to do here what to say what I am ready to share but. Still pretty confused but at least my dark place now is not so dark.

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#450825 - 10/21/13 02:44 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
Obi Online   content
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Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1280
Loc: kansas
welcome to ms.
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live another day. climb a little higher.

my story

my vlog

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#450828 - 10/21/13 02:59 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
Zero Offline


Registered: 09/24/13
Posts: 35
Loc: Tennessee
Welcome to Malesurvivor,

I am glad things aren't looking so dark for you now and I wish you well on the road to recovery.

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#450843 - 10/21/13 04:46 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
Dave PNW Offline


Registered: 04/03/13
Posts: 109
Loc: Pacific Northwest
Hey Chris welcome to MS. Sorry you have to be here, but you have found a good supportive place and community to work through your healing. It takes courage to register and post your introduction. Take your time. You set the pace. No matter what issues you are struggling with there is someone here willing to help. That is what i have found over the last six months i have been here. Welcome.

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#450848 - 10/21/13 05:25 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
Banjo596 Offline


Registered: 08/20/13
Posts: 39
Loc: Ohio
Welcome Chris.
I came here a short 3 months ago after years of trying to deal with it on my own as you have.
It was the best decision I've made in a long, long time.
Take your time, speak your mind when you feel like it.
I never imagined I would have learned so much and come so far.
Have patience with yourself.
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Jeff

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#450865 - 10/21/13 06:28 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3007
Loc: O Kanada
glad you found this website.

i believe it can help you.

do lots of reading and you will find things that make sense to you.

be prepared for powerful emotions to pop up.

don't worry, you're just getting to know yourself.

welcome to ms.org.

wishing you well.
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Victor|Victim

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Love
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#450882 - 10/21/13 08:57 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
traveler Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3304
Loc: back in the USA
yeah, Chris -

dealing with it on our own doesn't work - and neither does forgetting - in the long run - as you have learned. and the confusion is perfectly understandable - a normal response to an abnormal situation.

and far from being alone - there are thousands of us in this same boat with you. welcome.

let us know how we can help.

LEE
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We are often troubled, but not crushed;
sometimes in doubt, but never in despair;
there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend;
and though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed.
- Paul, II Cor 4:8-9

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#450893 - 10/21/13 10:13 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
KMCINVA Offline
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Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 1540
Chris

Welcome--I know how difficult this step can be. Remember you need to feel safe and comfortable with what you share. It is a process. We all move at different paces.

We are here for you--when you need to vent please call on us and when you move ahead share and we will share in you achievements and lift you when you are down--we all have been there and it takes people to get us to a place that is healing for our inner being.

Sorry you need to be here--but you have found a wonderful supportive group.

Kevin

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#450932 - 10/22/13 06:22 AM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
Suwanee Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 10/30/12
Posts: 686
Loc: Southeast USA
Welcome Chris,

I'm glad you found MS. It's a great resource to those of who are trying to deal with abuse. Of course I'm sorry you have to be here in the first place...but I hope you find that it is a safe forum to discuss what is on your mind.

I spent years pushing down those feelings of what happened to me. It worked well until it didn't...and that is where MS has helped tremendously. Share as much or as little as you are comfortable with...on your timetable.

Will
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My Journal

-Signs and traces left in stone
Ruins of a past unknown-

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#450937 - 10/22/13 07:36 AM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
thevision Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 08/25/13
Posts: 9
Loc: Columbus, Ohio
Hi Chris,
I'm happy you've reached out and started your first recovery steps. Chatting with you yesterday was very helpful to me. Thanks for your support.

Scott

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#451141 - 10/24/13 12:04 AM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
bluesky Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 08/04/13
Posts: 107
Welcome Chris,
Like many of use we find this place after many years of pain and confusion so take it slow do what feels safe and right for you. Just by joining you broke the wall of silence shame and a sens of being all alone. Thanks for honoring us with your presence.
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Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain."
Frank Herbert

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#451144 - 10/24/13 12:41 AM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
Jude Offline


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1469
Loc: New England
Welcome Chris,

Right off the bat, you've gotten one of the most important lessons in recovery: You are not alone. No more secrets. No more hiding. You will make it!

Jude
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"But now old friends are acting strange,
they shake their heads, they say I've changed.
Something's lost but something's gained in living every day
....it's life's illusions I recall, I really don't know life at all. "
Joni Mitchell

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#451687 - 10/29/13 10:33 AM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
CafeMan Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 03/18/13
Posts: 149
Loc: Chicago
Hi, Chris. It's been great chatting with you since you joined. When I first joined the site, the experience was very unknown to me with respect to posting, chatting in the lounge and the overall feelings associated being a member in this club which no one wants to join.

But the fact of the matter is, it happened. There is a sense of safety, community and fellowship in sharing what we all went through and continue to go through in our lives. In one way, the site has helped me fast track some of my issues to either full resolution or near resolution. Therefore, the site and the men here have been very good to me. I hope you find the experience as useful as I have!

-Nick

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#451844 - 10/30/13 12:35 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
nomorevic Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 11/19/12
Posts: 39
Loc: North Carolina
Hello Chris,

Not much that I can add to the previous comments. I am sorry for your pain but also glad you found your way here to Male Survivor.

Welcome and hope you find the support you deserve here.

Seth
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NMV

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#451904 - 10/30/13 07:22 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
gettingstronger Offline


Registered: 09/24/13
Posts: 145
Loc: Virginia
Hi Chris,

Welcome. Not much to add but we're all in the same boat and we're all here for one another. Feel free to share as you feel comfortable. Take care,

Bob

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#451930 - 10/30/13 08:26 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
Bill61 Offline


Registered: 09/29/13
Posts: 41
Loc: Illinois
Welcome to MS Chris,
I like Banjo596 have been on this site for a short period of time. I thought that this could not help me, but in the long run it has helped me. I also went to a Weekend of Recovery Oct 18-20 which I had anxiety feelings that I don't want to go to. What an improvement, I met 25 other men who were also abused and learned ways to let go the pain. On the final day, each man spoke about what they were leaving and what they were taking with them. I left my past and taking to live moment to moment.

Bill61
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Small Stones
"Those who remove mountains begin by carrying away small stones"

"I am in charge of how I fell and I choose HAPPINESS" from The Law of Attraction.

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#452580 - 11/05/13 05:02 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
nltsaved Offline


Registered: 08/26/08
Posts: 838
Loc: Kc,Mo
That is exactly how i felt after finding this place. The lie I told myself about being alone was shattered after coming here.
I have sense found lots of healing here . I hope you can to welcome
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#452757 - 11/07/13 08:21 AM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
nomorevic Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 11/19/12
Posts: 39
Loc: North Carolina
Hello Chris and welcome to Male Survivor.

I am fairly new here myself but it has been a game changer for me.
Take your time, go at your own pace, and know that you will find support here. Best to you on your journey of healing.
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