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#450754 - 10/21/13 08:13 AM New member
mikeg Offline


Registered: 10/17/13
Posts: 8
Loc: South Africa
Hi guys
also a ms here, been struggling to make sense of my life thus far, my story is so much alike all of yours, but tried to carry one with my life, got married, but now and again "triggers" happen, would like to meet people to chat to.
mike

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#450757 - 10/21/13 08:21 AM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
newground Offline
Chatroom Moderator
MaleSurvivor
Registered: 10/11/11
Posts: 761
Loc: michigan
Hey mike
you have come to the right place I have found a world of help since I have been here (2 years) just make yourself comfortable and reach out as you can the guys here are do great to do all they can to support and encourage. if there is anything I can do to help out, answer questions or whatever Just P.M. me I'd be glad to help. welcome to Male Survivor man glad you have found us ... sorry you needed to.
Jeff
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Towards thee I roll, thou all-destroying but unconquering whale; to the last I grapple with thee; from hell's heart I stab at thee; for hate's sake I spit my last breath at thee. let me then tow to pieces, while still chasing thee, thou damned whale! Thus, I give up the spear!"
Herman Melville

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#450759 - 10/21/13 08:22 AM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
KMCINVA Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 1651
Mike

Welcome to a place that will be kind and supportive to you. You have taken a courageous step. Write and talk at your own pace, you need to feel safe. We all heal at our own pace and what has worked for one may not work for another.

It can be an emotional roller coaster--ups and downs. Lean on those that support you in the down times.

We are hear and I wish you well on the healing journey.

Kevin

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#450766 - 10/21/13 08:34 AM Re: New member [Re: newground]
mikeg Offline


Registered: 10/17/13
Posts: 8
Loc: South Africa
thank you Jeff, will do, sometime just afraid and shy talking about it

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#450767 - 10/21/13 08:35 AM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
mikeg Offline


Registered: 10/17/13
Posts: 8
Loc: South Africa
thank you Kevin appreciate it.

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#450769 - 10/21/13 08:58 AM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
Obi Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1331
Loc: kansas
welcome to ms.
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live another day. climb a little higher.

my story

my vlog

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#450771 - 10/21/13 09:04 AM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
SamV Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 12/13/09
Posts: 5942
Loc: Talladega, Alabama, USA
Welcome Mike,

Your story is very similar to many survivors, we tried to put the abuse in the past, to move forward, but it came back with overwhelming emotions that demanded their own time in our conscious presence.

It is a struggle, but you are in the right path and the right place. I encourage you to keep sharing, safely and publicly, openly and honestly so that nothing holds back the healing progress and stability.

My best to you!

Sam
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MaleSurvivor Moderator Emeritus 2012 - 2014

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#450773 - 10/21/13 09:17 AM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
don64 Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 10/09/13
Posts: 684
Loc: St. Croix, USVI
Hi Mike,

My experience is it's the secrets inside that can kill you. Don't rush anything. Be patient. Take your time. You will naturally find the right people and right situations that are helpful to you and supportive for you. What needs to come up and out will happen when the time is right for you. Welcome and be gentle with yourself. Don
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Divine Law is not judgment or denial of self truths. Divine Law is honoring harmony that comes from a peaceful mind, an open heart, a true tongue, a light step, a forgiving nature, and a love of all living creatures. Jamie Sams & David Carson, Medicine Cards

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#450774 - 10/21/13 09:30 AM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
peroperic2009 Offline
Moderator
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 3608
Loc: South-East Europe
Hello Mike, good to see you here!
There are many ways to connect with other survivors: trough personal messages, chat or public broads; so go slowly and search what is the best for you.
If there will be something disturbing and triggering here please step aside and take some time. We need to keep our inner peace no matter what we are doing as it is prerequisite for healing.

We have had some nice men from SA present here, some of them have established web sites for survivors of sexual abuse - maybe it could be helpful, if you like I could find their links?

Be well!


Pero
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My story

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#450777 - 10/21/13 09:52 AM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
traveler Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3396
Loc: somewhere in Africa
hey, mike!

welcome and make yourself at home here. share what you can when you can - or just ask questions - whatever you are ready for. reach out and you will find many willing hands waiting to help you along.

hope to get to know you better,
LEE
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As my life goes on I believe somehow something's changed
Something deep inside...
I've been searchin so long to find an answer
Now I know my life has meaning
Now I see myself as I am, feeling very free...
When my tears have come to an end I will understand
What I left behind: a part of me. Chicago


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#450794 - 10/21/13 11:12 AM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
newground Offline
Chatroom Moderator
MaleSurvivor
Registered: 10/11/11
Posts: 761
Loc: michigan
Never a problem mike, you share what YOU are ready to share when you get ready. no pressure at all. just open to help in whatever way I can
Jeff
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Towards thee I roll, thou all-destroying but unconquering whale; to the last I grapple with thee; from hell's heart I stab at thee; for hate's sake I spit my last breath at thee. let me then tow to pieces, while still chasing thee, thou damned whale! Thus, I give up the spear!"
Herman Melville

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#451148 - 10/24/13 12:59 AM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
Jude Offline


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1529
Loc: New England
Welkom Mike,

Jy het gekom om 'n goeie plek om die genesing te begin. Dit is 'n lang pynlike pad, maar die beloning is om jou lewe terug.

Goed,

Judas
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Well, I won't back down
No I won't back down
You can stand me up at the gates of hell
But I won't back down.
Tom Petty

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#451207 - 10/24/13 07:50 PM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
gettingstronger Offline


Registered: 09/24/13
Posts: 164
Loc: Virginia
Hey Mike,

Welcome aboard! Lots and lots of support here. I've gotten more help from this site and the great guys on it than I can even believe. Glad you're checking it out (sorry you need to!) and feel free to explore, post, chat etc. as you want. Go at your own pace. Take care.
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Never worry about "three steps forward and two steps back." Thirty steps forward and twenty back are still ten steps in the right direction.

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#451812 - 10/30/13 07:21 AM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
mikeg Offline


Registered: 10/17/13
Posts: 8
Loc: South Africa
hi guys
today is 1 of those days, thinking about, feeling a bit lost in though, needing something, i hate these feelings on these days

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#451827 - 10/30/13 10:21 AM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3339
Loc: O Kanada
dear mikeg,

sorry you need ms.org.
triggers are everywhere,
in here and out there.

glad you found ms.org.
this website is like a cross section of survivor society.

welcome to ms.org.
i sincerely wish the best for you.
hope you find what you need.
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Victor|Victim

War
Love
Poetry

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#463929 - 04/10/14 09:45 AM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
mikeg Offline


Registered: 10/17/13
Posts: 8
Loc: South Africa
back again after a couple of weeks, how you guys doing?

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#464134 - 04/15/14 08:16 PM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
learning2luvme Offline


Registered: 06/12/12
Posts: 49
Mike,

We all end up back here at some point because their is love and wisdom here. We all get better, have shortcomings and pitfalls, but we do find strength in numbers and in the wisdom of those that have walked this path. It's ok to be "back"...actually it's a great thing that you have a resource here.

I'm always happy to help or chat if you feel the need.

Best Regards,
L2LME

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#464182 - 04/16/14 08:07 PM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3339
Loc: O Kanada
Originally Posted By: mikeg
back again after a couple of weeks, how you guys doing?


inside out, upside down, spinning round,
head in the clouds, feet on the ground.
my kids are killing me with stress and worry but i love them more than life.

waiting for the rain to stop.
i sure am glad i work indoors.

and how are you?
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Victor|Victim

War
Love
Poetry

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