All has been well. I was on one of my social media sites and you know how you connect with a friend of friend and click back. Well I ended up on a site to people with my home town. There was a posting of weddings from the past. Seems innocent. Until I read a post I was an altar boy at your sister's wedding.I was also an altar at this wedding I. It was wedding I never forgot except I did not remember the other altar boy. I was told to go to the front of the church to see if the bride arrived. I did and waited. She arrived and I remember her coming out of the big black limo--her jet black hair--that is all I remembered until I was in the church cellar some time later and on the floor. I knew the other altar boy, my family knew his large Irish Catholic family, they were to our home and we to their home. I know he had at least two brothers who were altar boys. My parents socialized with them at the and the families shared school, sports and heritage. I know if I wrote to him he would be warm and welcoming--as his family has and was. I never heard them say a bad word about others nor put down others to push themselves up so to think they were better. The kids were always kind and sharing and with 8 of them it was an accomplishment to the parents. I think of what my father said and asked me if I had been abused, and now I wonder if this is the family who suffered as we did. I saw the bride's sister, the bride from decades ago, in June of this year at my brother's high school reunion. I did find myself asking about her sister who I did not know except for being the altar boy at the sister's wedding. Do I just need to let in go?
After seeing his comment and knowing of his life from my father, I know he would be kind. I want to write to him and ask if he remembers more of that day, the wedding, the cellar and if anything ever happened to him, his twin or brother. But I do not want to put him in a bad place. He may not want to remember or maybe he was spared. I do not know. But maybe it is time for me to let the past go and not let new information or triggers control my life.
Now that I have another name, I do not know what to do. I thought i just want to enjoy where I am and let the past be the past. But knowing this family, do I owe them?
Any insights, advise, thoughts would be helpful.
I was hoping for some advise.