I think society is more tolerant of gay female sexuality, than any other. After all, alot of straight men think 2 chicks going at it is "HOT". If the situation were that of a gay male 19 year old and a 14 year old boy, I doubt they would refer to them as "boyfriends". They'd label him a predator.
"But now old friends are acting strange,
they shake their heads, they say I've changed.
Something's lost but something's gained in living every day
....it's life's illusions I recall, I really don't know life at all. "Joni Mitchell