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#44813 - 06/23/06 03:02 AM
My Perp?
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I know it is habit, not to mention the fact that it's just plain easier to type, but
HE'S NOT MINE, DAMMIT!
I refuse to claim him. He can be the perp, that perp, taxi guy, him, he, perp, or any number of other useful terms, but he is not mine.
In time I may even come to the place where I can feel sympathy for the broken man he was, but he still will not be MINE.
There! I feel better!
Lots of love,
John
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#44815 - 06/23/06 05:20 AM
Re: My Perp?
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yeah, I tried to find Darrel's old thread on this topic, but couldn't locate it so started another one!
Lots of love,
John
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“Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting ‘Holy ____…! What a ride!’” ~Hunter S. Thompson
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#44817 - 06/24/06 09:06 PM
Re: My Perp?
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John,
Yes, I remember Darrel stressing this in his thread. It took me awhile, but now I try never to say "MY perp/abuser". And it feels great to avoid that one, doesn't it?
Much love,
Larry
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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me. (Woody Guthrie)
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#44818 - 06/24/06 09:40 PM
Re: My Perp?
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Wow guys,
I never thought of it that way. How weird to claim possession of someone so damn grotesque! I know for a fact that the last perp I came in contact with (didn't say "my last perp") had many victims, I was just one of many. So, he was in no way MY perp.
They were all a part of me, but not mine. Like chicken pox, or skin cancers...something bad, but not something I would want to claim as mine.
Thanks for setting this old man straight!
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#44819 - 06/26/06 02:44 AM
Re: My Perp?
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Larry, Yes, it does feel great. "Claiming possession" of the perp was like keeping myself captive to his power over my life. Throwing off that claim was liberating. Rich, if you are old, that makes me much the same, and I reject the adjective, thank you very much! You can be what you want, I prefer to consider myself "experienced at life"  Lots of love, John
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#44820 - 06/26/06 03:26 AM
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John, "Old", "Experienced at life", whatever you call it, it sure beats the alternative!!! 
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#44821 - 06/26/06 03:36 AM
Re: My Perp?
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Rich, If you've said anything in your sojourn here at MS that has had meaning, that one ranks right up there at the top!  Lots of love, John
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#44822 - 06/26/06 09:52 AM
Re: My Perp?
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John,
sounds like you have redeemed the situation perfectly.
Regaining control is cathartic,
ste
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