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#446496 - 09/05/13 11:14 AM Hello from Brazil
Fabio_SP Offline


Registered: 06/16/13
Posts: 16
I'm from Brazil, São Paulo, I'd like to meet with people from Brazil for a project(Brazil support group in São Paulo), please go to "Classifieds" for more details.
I know there are many brazilians here, so let's keep in touch, send a private message if you want(I'll check it everyday).I can't let my e-mail here, so you have to send me a private message.
Since almost anybody checks the Classifieds section I decided to make this post.
Let's join forces.I'm doing my best sending e-mails everywhere, but I'm not being successful.
Fabio


Edited by Fabio_SP (09/14/13 08:10 AM)
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#446536 - 09/06/13 12:01 AM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: Fabio_SP]
Jude Offline


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1369
Loc: New England
Bem-vindo Fabio,

Espero que seus planos em São Paulo são bem sucedidos. Tenho certeza de que há muitos homens no Brasil que serão beneficiados com seus esforços. Por favor, mantenha-nos informados de seu progresso.

Jude
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I caught a fleeting glimpse
Out of the corner of my eye
I turned to look but it was gone
I cannot put my finger on it now
The child is grown, the dream is gone
And I have become comfortably numb."
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#446645 - 09/07/13 08:25 PM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: Fabio_SP]
Jay1946 Offline


Registered: 08/08/13
Posts: 58
Loc: Miami, Florida, USA
Fabio:

I am not from Brazil but I was born in Latin America. My perception is that male CSA is as prevalent in Latin America as in the US, and maybe even more so. But it is a taboo subject. No one talks about it, which makes it even more difficult and painful for those victims.
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#447034 - 09/12/13 09:35 PM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: Fabio_SP]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 2972
Loc: O Kanada
Bem-vindo Fabio,

welcome to www.malesurvivor.org
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#447099 - 09/13/13 10:11 AM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: Jude]
Fabio_SP Offline


Registered: 06/16/13
Posts: 16
Olá Jude, Como já havia dito 20% dos sobreviventes são do Brasil(no fórum), porém o que me impressiona é o fato da pouca reação/resposta do meu post nessa comunidade(malesurvivor.org). Poís vejo todos os dias se há mensagens p/ mim, no entanto não há.
A falta de reply me deixa muito frustrado, tenho convicção que há muitos brasileiros necessitando de um grupo de apoio(lógico, fora o tratamento de um profissional).
Mandei um e-mail para o Dr. Howard Fradkin no dia 15 de agosto e recebi como resposta que um dos facilitadores, Bill Burmeste iria me mandar detalhes na próxima semana como iniciar um grupo de apoio, porém até agora não recebi o e-mail com os detalhes.Também me foi dito que (Dr. Howard Fradkin) que meu e-mail seria repassado p/ o Chris Andersen(Diretor Executivo), todavia ainda não recebi o e-mail do mesmo.
No dia 16 de agosto, recebi um e-mail do Paul Linden com dois contatos da America do Sul, professores de aikido(não sei qual é a associação do aikido com Grupo de apoio à vítima de violência sexual) mandei e-mail p/ os dois e até o momento não recebi resposta.
Como você pode perceber não estou sendo bem sucedido nessa jornada.Não sendo profissional na área e sem contatos fica difícil iniciar algo tão audacioso.
Estou pensando em mandar um e-mail p/ um deputado(do Rio de Janeiro, infelizmente não de São Paulo) e espero conseguir algum êxito em pelo menos alguma coisa.Também estou pensando em mandar novamente um e-mail p/ Dr. Howard Fradkin lhe informando que até o momento não recebi os detalhes como iniciar esse grupo de apoio.

Fabio
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#447106 - 09/13/13 10:35 AM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: Jay1946]
Fabio_SP Offline


Registered: 06/16/13
Posts: 16
Hi jay, you absolutely right, here in Brazil is still a taboo, I have never met so far somebody that is male CSA or ASA, believe me, I tried to find somebody(that is male adult) to keep in touch with me (somebody that suffered similar issues as mine), but I couldn't find it.
I believe they are afraid and ashamed of it, since no male reports to police about this kind of crime.And I also believe that in the US are easier to approach about it than in Brazil, since they have support group/community to help each other.
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#447109 - 09/13/13 10:42 AM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: victor-victim]
Fabio_SP Offline


Registered: 06/16/13
Posts: 16
Olá Victor. Obrigado pelas boas-vinda.
Espero que você também possa me ajudar nessa jornada, o mínimo que você possa fazer como apenas divugando esse post(e o post do Classifieds), já estou agradecido.
Espero que mais brasileiros vejam esse post e possam me ajudar.

Fabio
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#447120 - 09/13/13 01:44 PM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: Fabio_SP]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 2972
Loc: O Kanada
Obrigado.
Espero que você obtenha o que deseja.
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#447145 - 09/13/13 10:21 PM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: Fabio_SP]
Jay1946 Offline


Registered: 08/08/13
Posts: 58
Loc: Miami, Florida, USA
Fabio:

Even though I don't speak Portuguese, I speak Spanish, so I was able to get the notion of what you wrote in your posts.

Keep up your very considerable efforts. I am sure you will be successful sooner or later. In the meantime, I hope you continue to draw support and encouragement from this board.

Best:
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#447223 - 09/14/13 07:18 PM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: Fabio_SP]
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Registered: 11/09/12
Posts: 262
Loc: MO
Welcome Fabio.

Though I don't speak Portuguese, you do speak English. We are all just the same,

We are here to support you and to share our recovery, and our trials, but mostly our recovery.

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#447269 - 09/15/13 08:15 AM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: victor-victim]
Fabio_SP Offline


Registered: 06/16/13
Posts: 16
Obrigado Victor, tenho convicção que com persistência chegarei no meu objetivo, mesmo que leve algum tempo.

Fabio


Edited by Fabio_SP (09/15/13 08:46 AM)
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#447270 - 09/15/13 08:41 AM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: Jay1946]
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Registered: 06/16/13
Posts: 16
Hi jay and thank u
The support of this forum has helped me a lot, because sometimes things doesn't go the way we want, but I get the strength from people's kind words of this forum.
I hope somebody with connection and influence(here in Brazil) reads my post and try to help me.Because so far I have no sources(I only have a lot of e-mails that I already sent(with no reply) lol.
I'm thinking to send another e-mail to Dr. Howard Fradkin, because I haven't received an email yet from Bill Burmester "materials about how to start a support group"(if I had Bill Burmester's e-mail I could get in touch with him myself).

Fabio


Edited by Fabio_SP (09/15/13 08:46 AM)
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#447271 - 09/15/13 08:45 AM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: genedebs]
Fabio_SP Offline


Registered: 06/16/13
Posts: 16
Thank u Genedbs.

I'm sure the language is not the problem, since we're here for same motive.
I'm glad that people are reading my post, so I can spread more about my project, any words from you people has helped me a lot when things doesn't go the way I want.

Fabio
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#458882 - 01/18/14 11:37 AM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: Fabio_SP]
Fabio_SP Offline


Registered: 06/16/13
Posts: 16
Hi guys, I'm so sorry, I have been busy with personal problems(health issues). The thing is that there are groups that help Male survivors here in Brazil,is just that I wasn't aware of it, http://bastaviolenciasexual.org/sobreviventes/masculinos
I haven't contacted them yet, then I'm still not sure if it is a reliable source.
I promise that this year I'll make things happen, last year I stopped the project because somebody told me: "before you help the others... you need to help yourself!". And I have a lot of problems lol.
Here's a group that I created for brazilians survivors on facebook
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1457546691135071/
Is allowed fake profiles, I know many want to remain anonymous


Edited by Fabio_SP (01/18/14 11:48 AM)
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#459233 - 01/23/14 05:08 AM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: Fabio_SP]
Fabio_SP Offline


Registered: 06/16/13
Posts: 16
Meus Deus, onde estão os brasileiros? Nenhuma resposta, até o momento só consegui o contato de um brasileiro, mas sabemos que o número de brasileiros nessa comunidade é imensa, então lhes pergunto, cadê vocês?
Eu preciso de muito ajuda e contatos p/ realizar o projeto, no grupo(facebook) não tem a necessidade de ser um perfil real, pode ser fakes, poís sei que muitos querem se preservar no anonimato.
Vamos executar um trabalho maravilhoso onde todos nós podemos confiar e acreditar.

Brazil support group in São Paulo
http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=438469#Post438469
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#459266 - 01/23/14 11:40 AM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: Fabio_SP]
OCN Offline


Registered: 02/05/13
Posts: 185
Loc: Western Europe
Hej Fabio

Great to see you trying to set up a support group! Hope you'll find the resources you need and that there are a couple of brave men who want to join in

One thing you said struck me:
I promise that this year I'll make things happen, last year I stopped the project because somebody told me: "before you help the others... you need to help yourself!". And I have a lot of problems lol.

What the other person told you, has been my secret mantra behind a lot of things i did or didnt do. I really believed that i need to heal myself before i could help others. But studying spiritual traditions have made me realize that helping others is no other thing than helping myself.

So Fabio, no matter what your (and in my case it goes for me just as good ;)) problems are, you are allready helping out many persons! Whether you're aware of it or not..

Good luck with your group in São Paulo!

Pieter

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#459292 - 01/23/14 08:44 PM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: Fabio_SP]
gettingstronger Offline


Registered: 09/24/13
Posts: 135
Loc: Virginia
Hi Fabio,

Congratulations on deciding to start the group! Even if there are already groups for male abuse survivors, I truly believe there is always room for another one. Your group might just be the one that people find the most comfortable, the most useful and so on.

While it's good to be at a certain point in your healing before you can truly reach out to others effectively, I found that even in the first months of mine, I was able to at least offer encouragement and share things I had already resolved (or at least worked through mentally) with others who were struggling.

In other words, even if you're relatively early on in your healing, you probably still have lots to offer to those who are just starting to deal with abuse. You will also find yourself learning from those who might be a little further down the road. In any event, you're doing a wonderful thing.

Bob

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#459581 - 01/28/14 08:45 AM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: OCN]
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Registered: 06/16/13
Posts: 16
Hi Pieter, thank u so much for words and I really want to make things happen this year, if u want u can join our group on facebook(u can use fake profile).
I have mental issues that I won't say what it is, but also I have a little of agoraphobia, so is little complicated to go out and meet people(make things happen), I can't make things happen only staying inside my house. That's why this person said:"before you help the others... you need to help yourself!".It's disease problem
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#459582 - 01/28/14 08:52 AM Re: Hello from Brazil [Re: gettingstronger]
Fabio_SP Offline


Registered: 06/16/13
Posts: 16
I'm glad to hear that Bob, that you're helping people and that also that I can help them too.I'm sure I can learn from each one of them.
I can say I'm still healing process with many doubts among other things, but I'm sure that I can help the others.

Fabio
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