Newest Members
tammy m, TheConqueror, Bloom, JohnWC, KKumar
12423 Registered Users
Today's Birthdays
biggbill70 (44), CP4 (24), EddieMi (46), EddieT (46), hemi1024 (54), Kage (70), kdj_74 (40), Knightswhitehart (49), otlhouston (47), TX_Space (47), VirtualBman (50)
Who's Online
7 registered (Obi, Scott1962, Bloom, 4 invisible), 35 Guests and 4 Spiders online.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Forum Stats
12423 Members
74 Forums
63798 Topics
445507 Posts

Max Online: 418 @ 07/02/12 07:29 AM
Twitter
Topic Options
#445963 - 08/30/13 12:25 PM Why am I into Kink?
risingagain Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 11/09/10
Posts: 597
Loc: Vancouver, BC, Canada
* * * TRIGGER WARNING * * *

Why am I into kink?
Because when my dad raped me it wasn't consensual, safe, or sane.

Because every day powerful people do atrocious things to others without asking permission,
because forests and animals are slaughtered without consideration of their life,
because children are sexually abused every day and no one wants to teach sexual respect,
because religion calls us perverts even as we model communication and consent.
Why am I into kink?

Because sexuality is so powerful and I want to be conscious of myself and others,
because violence is so pervasive and I want to understand,
because when I own my power to choose I am no longer a victim,
and when I honor another's power to choose I am no longer a perpetrator,
because I was an innocent little boy who just wanted to be held and loved,
because I am a responsible caring playful man who embraces all of me!
Why am I into kink?

Because it's so hot to see you tied up,
because I love the way you look at me when you trust me,
because I love to be your prisoner,
because you show me what turns you on,
because I get to lick your toes, smell your sneakers, dress up in my football gear and tackle you,
because I get to be your toy, and I know that beneath that throbbing cock, you really care about me,
because the cold steel of handcuffs reminds me that every day we choose to be together,
because you cum when I tie and tease you,
because you beg me for it.
Why am I into kink?

Because you are a hot man who teaches me about my body and my heart,
because you're so fucking athletic and sexy,
because guys like to pounce on guys too but we don't admit it,
because I want to feel connected to you,
because I was never on any sports team,
because I can be in control of my body again,
because when we're vulnerable together we soar,
because I can open my heart again,
because I'm bound to others
and I want to remember it.

Why are you into kink?


Edited by risingagain (08/31/13 01:36 AM)

Top
#446008 - 08/30/13 09:38 PM Re: Why am I into Kink? [Re: risingagain]
Shyshark Offline


Registered: 10/30/12
Posts: 414
Loc: Canada
Boy oh boy oh boy ...

oh boy ... am I ever NOT into kink. :P

At least not as you describe it.

I spent several years in martial arts ...
mainly Judo because it's isn't as aggressive as the others.
I am a very gentle person ... but ...
Let's just say that it would a big mistake to try to pin me down
or restrict my ability to move freely.
There are a number of guys out there with limps and extensive dental work
who didn't heed my warning ... "Don't do that!"
Now ... I have no problem with anyone doing anything with/to another with mutual consent.
Whatever works.

I think you and I are 2 sides of the same coin.
You desire to be controlled in a manner that mirrors your experiences ...
and I am hyper sensitive to any possibility of being physically harmed ...
and I am at complete loss as to why.
As far as I can remember I was not 'hurt' ...
but 2 of my shrinks came to the same conclusion ...
that I was probably held and coaxed into submitting ...
so forced in a different way.
Trust me ... it explains a lot as to why I am as I am.
It has to be 'seductive' for me.

So by who's definition are either of us kinky?

I love your poem ... it's very evocative ...
as in it gave me the heebie-geebies.
_________________________
Experience is a brutal teacher.

Top
#446028 - 08/31/13 01:36 AM Re: Why am I into Kink? [Re: risingagain]
risingagain Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 11/09/10
Posts: 597
Loc: Vancouver, BC, Canada
hehe, i figured it might give a few guys the heebie-geebies... others might get a boner.

that's what makes life wonderful. we all adapt in different ways.


Edited by risingagain (08/31/13 01:37 AM)

Top
#446032 - 08/31/13 02:38 AM Re: Why am I into Kink? [Re: risingagain]
Shyshark Offline


Registered: 10/30/12
Posts: 414
Loc: Canada
It put a smile on my face ...
Thank you.
_________________________
Experience is a brutal teacher.

Top
#446193 - 09/02/13 03:16 AM Re: Why am I into Kink? [Re: risingagain]
risingagain Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 11/09/10
Posts: 597
Loc: Vancouver, BC, Canada
Welcome, Shyshark! laugh

Heebie geebies, smiles, and boners... Oh good! It's getting a rise! hahah

Top
#446197 - 09/02/13 03:33 AM Re: Why am I into Kink? [Re: risingagain]
ghostlights Offline


Registered: 11/22/11
Posts: 26
Loc: Upstate NY
Dude, this poem is amazing. Turns everybody's notions completely on their heads. It's a concise statement about your painful past, a blanket statement about irresponsibility, greed, misuse of power, all that. Your assertion of personal empowerment. It's romantic, really sexy. Kink is beautiful. Who knew?
_________________________
-Dave

Top
#446242 - 09/02/13 06:20 PM Re: Why am I into Kink? [Re: risingagain]
risingagain Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 11/09/10
Posts: 597
Loc: Vancouver, BC, Canada
Thank you Dave *blush*. Heh. Maybe I should start dating guys on here. ;-)

I'm pretty sexy! smile and lots of fun!

Top


Moderator:  ModTeam, Publius 

I agree that my access and use of the MaleSurvivor discussion forums and chat room is subject to the terms of this Agreement. AND the sole discretion of MaleSurvivor.
I agree that my use of MaleSurvivor resources are AT-WILL, and that my posting privileges may be terminated at any time, and for any reason by MaleSurvivor.