well am trying to post but can't seem to narrow this down very well.
would be nice to know if there are any other parents of adult survivors out there?
basically he's angry at me (always) and virtually every action he exhibits screams to me "survivor mode" and I want SO bad to tell him, explain to him, this is why but I honestly don't think he's confronted this aspect of his life.
In other words, I'm not at all sure he knows he's a survivor.
I did mention something to him once, a short time before he disappeared but I don't know if he remembers or not, and it has occurred to me since (see my re-intro post) there very well could have been other times, possibly other abusers which I never knew about.
We've yet to meet face to face; he can't bring himself to do so yet - for whatever reason. When he first re-initiated contact I was going to wait until we met to explain things to him but now it's been a couple of months and things are very very hard. I'm wondering if it would be better to do so on the phone and get it over with as he seems quite distraught and stressed.
He actually seems afraid to see me, which of course, is heartwrenching.
I don't know what to do. I'm his mom, and I want to help him, and I don't know what to do....
*addendum* I've brought up having us see a family counselor to facilitate matters, all to no avail. I do know he's had counseling in the past, but know nothing further.
Edited by indygal (08/24/13 04:59 PM)
my avatar is one of the Battle Angel characters, fighting the good fight.