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#445296 - 08/23/13 10:33 PM Little League World Series and Triggers
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Seems like no matter how much I try to avoid it, every year, some how I manage to see parts of games or news coverage about the Little League World Series. Now I was the furthest thing from an athlete in school and I would have never ever have been able to even make my local little league team regardless of the abuse. However it still triggers me (some good but mostly bad) when LLWS time comes around. It was especially bad when a town 20 miles away won the championship about 15 years ago, coverage was everywhere. You'd just about have to crawl into a fetal position and live in the bathroom not to have heard about it.

Even though my lack of athelticism, it still brings me back to what might have been. Sometimes, I'm happy for the kids, seeing what fun they were having and what others would focus on how I should have been having fun and being a kid back then.

Is this a trigger for anyone else?

Jason
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#445299 - 08/23/13 11:34 PM Re: Little League World Series and Triggers [Re: onlyakid]
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Originally Posted By: onlyakid


Is this a trigger for anyone else?



HUGE!

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#445302 - 08/23/13 11:49 PM Re: Little League World Series and Triggers [Re: onlyakid]
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Originally Posted By: onlyakid

Is this a trigger for anyone else?


Jason

Yes. I have had big problems with what you describe. You did a good job of describing it. I have experienced a lot of it just as you describe.

The good part is that the therapy I have had seems to have worked, because my reactions have decreased tremendously.

Puffer

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#445339 - 08/24/13 11:57 AM Re: Little League World Series and Triggers [Re: onlyakid]
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yep - just rubbed my face in how abnormal and how big a loser i was...

and then i would wonder if the same thing that happened to me in the locker room was happening to any of them...

even all of the "Normal" and BEST stuff was all somehow connected to abuse.
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#445350 - 08/24/13 02:44 PM Re: Little League World Series and Triggers [Re: onlyakid]
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Edited by Chase Eric (11/21/13 08:49 PM)
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#445374 - 08/24/13 08:04 PM Re: Little League World Series and Triggers [Re: Chase Eric]
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I watched it again today. I had some observations. Maybe I see too much, or maybe I don't see enough.

The two young guys with the long blond hair?...Why... (really why)

There was one kid of about 11 in the stands. The TV camera centered on him for about 15 seconds (a long time in TV land). He looked extremely uncomfortable and his body language seemed to be trying to hide his privates with his arms. Why?

Puffer

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#445376 - 08/24/13 08:18 PM Re: Little League World Series and Triggers [Re: pufferfish]
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Originally Posted By: pufferfish


The two young guys with the long blond hair?...Why... (really why)


Because it's kewl. cool This coming from a guy who had long hair for a lot of years. In the pregame interview they both said they agreed to cut it after the LLWS was over. I was actually kind of disappointed to hear that but oh well. It's their hair, they can do what they want with it. Sure hope the Cali boys beat Japan tomorrow! smile Peace,

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#445384 - 08/24/13 10:42 PM Re: Little League World Series and Triggers [Re: pufferfish]
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Originally Posted By: pufferfish
I watched it again today. I had some observations. Maybe I see too much, or maybe I don't see enough.

The two young guys with the long blond hair?...Why... (really why)

There was one kid of about 11 in the stands. The TV camera centered on him for about 15 seconds (a long time in TV land). He looked extremely uncomfortable and his body language seemed to be trying to hide his privates with his arms. Why?

Puffer



The long hair styles are popular like Ken says, espcially since this is California. These hairstyles tend to have a surfer aspect to them.

The kid who was uncomfortable and shielding his privates. Perhaps he was just having an unwanted erection he was embarrassed about. Unfortunately we can't know if there are any other signs that might point more towards abuse.

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#445386 - 08/24/13 11:26 PM Re: Little League World Series and Triggers [Re: onlyakid]
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Mostly I'm happy for the kids.
But I was first abused at 11. I catch myself wondering how many of the kids are like me at 11 or 12, sexualized, or hurt, or ashamed.
Then I try to go back to being happy for them and hope they have a great game/life/whatever.
Those guys really put their hearts into the game.
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#445439 - 08/25/13 06:26 PM Re: Little League World Series and Triggers [Re: Onesimus75]
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Congrats to the kids from Japan for winning it all. I was disappointed for the Cali kids though. I was rooting for them. While I wouldn't call the LLWS a trigger for me, I do hate having to see the boys that loose crying on the field afterwards. Their little harts broken and their little dreams dashed. That always really gets to me. The LLWS itself isn't a trigger but images of crying children is a HUGE one. One of those Cali boys in particular looked really heartbroken and had tears streaming down his face. It was a sight that hurt to see and the second he was on camera, I immediately choked up myself with tears welling up in my own eyes. I found myself wanting to hug him and hoping he has a caring adult somewhere nearby to do just that. I'm sure he'll be ok though, even if it takes a while to swallow the bitter pill of disappointment, which it may. Peace,

Ken

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