How many here who were abused as boys grew up to have difficulties with sex. Either fear and avoidance of it, or promiscuity/addiction, or porn issues, or gay/str8 confusion, or difficulty with performance, or whatever...all of the above.
So after the abuse I seemed to always have an erection. I just had to think "no, not now" and boom hard as a rock. This of course did not make my life easy at camps or the high school boys dormitory for Junior and Senior year OR the men's dormitory for two years OR back to the same high school dorm for 3 more years as an college RA. At a camp prior to HS on my first day in the shower it happened - got an erection with my roommate in the next shower stall (an Asplundh) rich and popular. I was not popular after that and never would be around here (where I still live, but in a house now).
Since I was always erect I tended to MB a lot regardless of location, but always with lots of effort to never be caught. I also used objects anally because the orgasms were so much better and it simulated what my abuser tried to do to me unsuccessfully (he was too big).
Always wondered if I was gay because I could so easily get an erection at the touch of anther guy. I had one friend that loved to wrestle and I always got an erection no matter how hard I tried not to. Never acted out with anyone, but fantasized about other guys trying to pick me up and have sex with me.
Early 90s for about 5 years spent a lot of time looking for all of the free samples of gay porn from the hundreds of sites. Was slowly able to reduce this to only 2 or 3 times a year. MB with objects lessoned as well. Still MB a lot without objects. Eventually in the last 5 years completely stopped objects and only MB once or twice a week. Have watched porn once in the last year to see what both gay and straight did for me.
Once I figured out the SSA stuff, that love did not equal sex the level of fear around sex lowered as well. The good news was that I stopped getting erections all the time. The bad news is that I can't get it up as easily anymore and I can't keep it up long enough either. I went from rock hard all the time to hardly hard and not for long either in a very short time frame (like 2 months). I had my T levels checked and they were low 300s. It happened so quickly that I think the mental changes caused the T levels to drop as well.
I got my T levels up with meds, but still have erection problems. Viagra works sort of, but found this great all natural stuff that makes Viagra look like a sugar pill that you can get from Amazon.
There's probably more, but that's enough don't you think. Ugh.