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#445751 - 08/28/13 05:06 PM Re: Transcending CSA in Realizing a Dream [Re: concerned_husky]
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Edited by concerned_husky (08/30/15 06:36 AM)
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#445843 - 08/29/13 08:26 AM Re: Transcending CSA in Realizing a Dream [Re: concerned_husky]
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Thanks for the update and best of luck to you. I can't wait to hear how it goes.
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#446184 - 09/02/13 01:01 AM Re: Transcending CSA in Realizing a Dream [Re: concerned_husky]
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Edited by concerned_husky (08/30/15 06:37 AM)
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#446192 - 09/02/13 02:56 AM Re: Transcending CSA in Realizing a Dream [Re: concerned_husky]
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Husky,
Don't feel bad talking about pursuing your dream?! I'm willing to listen to people's bad times, but I'm very happy to hear about victories! If a BB is to help support and share in each others' struggles, can't we be privileged enough to share a little bit in your success!!!
Keep up the hard work!
Kick butt at your concert.
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#446213 - 09/02/13 10:13 AM Re: Transcending CSA in Realizing a Dream [Re: concerned_husky]
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Your thread is just as important as the other ones and hearing how someone is making efforts at fighting the effects of CSA is VERY important. I turn here for support as well and there's room for all of us. Besides I really want to know how things are going.

I don't think the timing of the dream is weird at all. Sending out invitations the same day - it's getting more real. It will be harder to stop things now. That can be a good thing too. Pressure to keep moving forward which I hope you do. As you get closer to the event you should expect more fear and that too is a good thing. It can be a great motivator as well. Just remember what you are doing right NOW and these last several days is great! You're already being successful.

You know what I do sometimes when I find myself sinking into thoughts that keep me from succeeding? I reread the stuff I wrote that got me to this point. Reread your original post - it's still awesome!

You are not alone on this journey.
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#446224 - 09/02/13 11:50 AM Re: Transcending CSA in Realizing a Dream [Re: concerned_husky]
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Husky,

I can really relate to your most recent response in this post. I think we all have our internal saboteurs that tend to come out when we are letting go of old patterns and rising above challenges. Those internal voices that whisper or yell that we are not worth it, and work against what we are struggling to do. I know I have that in the shape of dreams, daydreams, or just voices in my head all the time.

I now equate the rise of these saboteurs as a key indicator that I am on the right path and that I should not turn back. I think it means you are getting ready to challenge a huge obstacle or huge issue from your past. This concert seems likely to be a big turning point for you. You are reclaiming something vitally important to your sense of self worth. Keep pushing past the dreams and the voices. You are most definitely worth it.

I am so excited for you. It's great that the invitations have been sent out. I would love to witness it, but will be there in spirit cheering you on. Can't wait to hear how it turns out.
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#446254 - 09/02/13 08:41 PM Re: Transcending CSA in Realizing a Dream [Re: concerned_husky]
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Todd, I could not say it better.

Husky - I think you're wonderful to take this challenge on. The abused person inside you is a little scared right now, and out of fear he is pressuring you to quit. He will be more comfortable when he sees how strong and brave you are as you perform, and then he'll show you his happy side - the side that got put away when the abuse happened. At that point, he will probably begin to help you out!

I believe in you, whatever happens, Husky.

Geoff
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#446293 - 09/03/13 09:58 AM Re: Transcending CSA in Realizing a Dream [Re: concerned_husky]
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Edited by concerned_husky (08/30/15 06:38 AM)
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#446298 - 09/03/13 10:42 AM Re: Transcending CSA in Realizing a Dream [Re: concerned_husky]
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I think it's already too late to call it failed. You've come to far. It can only be "not as good as it could have been" now which of course leads to "so for the next time I will do x, y, and z to make it even better".

Just remember the little guy inside you is trying to protect you. He means well so don't be mad at him. Thank him for worrying about you and tell him it's going to be OK. You know what you are doing and will take care of him and yourself.

I too will be there in spirit!

Keep being strong.
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"Me too" - I don't think I will ever get tired of saying or hearing these two words.

My Story:
http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=441625#Post441625

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#446351 - 09/03/13 05:27 PM Re: Transcending CSA in Realizing a Dream [Re: concerned_husky]
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Having a gosl, a dream shows you have hope and are learning to understsnd what makes you happy. So many people lack a dream or gosl, just go with thebflow and resent those who dream or encourge them to dream and seek. For many of us here fear has held us captive to the abuser and to a part of us that felt special to the abuser. You are moving beyond this fear. You are achieving an important dream to be free of the abuse while seeking something special and important to you. Keep going forward.

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