Thanks all for your kind and encouraging words.
Silly survivor, thinking that I have all the responsibility for what happens in a relationship.
I miss the mark when I think there is a place to draw the line. It moves, but ironically not in a George Kastanza kind of way. It just has to be fluid, cuz sometimes I am just bitchy like any other human being and sometimes its just a matter of accepting that I am not responsible for the other persons feelings or behavior. That's a tough one, we tend to feel its us that has that weight of all things on our shoulders.
Ended up having one of the best weekends of my life. My sons baseball team won the championship for our province(state) and we are off to the nationals. My family was there, my man was there and many in our community. Coming out to more people and getting nothing back but acceptance and one sideways head tilt,lol.
Plus it was pride weekend in our city, the fifth largest in the world, over 600,000 people in support of the lgbtq. We attended a few events and had a wonderful time. My best gay friend the minister had his partner here from north Carolina, who just was overwhelmed. His state does not allow any gay events. WTF?http://dailyxtra.com/vancouver/news/video-vancouvers-2013-pride-parade?market=210
Thanks again boys. Its a work in progress, boundaries are what make me finally see that I have some control over where things go but its na´ve to think I have it all or none.