this isnt going to sound nice. but its true.
But it's not true. At all. No one here is ever going to know what rape feels like for a woman. Maybe they feel the same emotions, like fear or whatever, but you're never going to know how it actually feels.
Rape is seen as a real threat to women. They don't go out alone at night, they're not supposed to get too drunk, or dress in too revealing clothes, even the police say stuff like "avoid unlit areas at night". Personally I think men should avoid getting too drunk in public because you just don't know what might happen. I'm just kind of paranoid, but usually, as a man you don't have to be thinking about, should I walk down this dark alley way...?
One of the things that bothers me a lot is being seen as less of a man, or weak and girly. I do not want a therapist that's going to compare me to a woman. That's just completely wrong. I don't know what she was trying to do, but whatever it was it sucked.
Jaifian... sorry for kind of hijacking your thread. I would absolutely hate to have a therapist asking me those kind of questions. I don't really see what they need to know those kind of details for? I would leave and find a new one. But I also have the same paranoia about people wanting details of what happened to me for their own enjoyment. That's the main reason why I never posted in any detail about what happened to me here. It took me a long time to decide to start therapy because I didn't want to sit there and go through every incident, but in the end I decided that I didn't really need to. The actual stuff that happened isn't so important, it's more the way I feel about it and the issues that it causes me that I want to work on. I think Gary had some good advice about the CMH people. I'm with them too, some of them are completely useless and some of them are awesome. (My new therapist that I have isn't part of community mental health though). Good luck. It really does suck that you are trying to do the right thing by going to therapy and then having it cause you more problems.