...is the thought I'm having tonight.
There was definitely something in Matt's post "Thankful" that got me seeing things in a new light. Thank you, Matt. (I did not want to hijack that wonderful thread, so I decided to start a separate one here.)
The more I think about it, the more I realize that the path to recovery is inextricably bound with the journey to becoming a good human being, a good man. I think we all are doing this, and it's actually nothing short of incredible. We all have different backgrounds in CSA. The gender of the perpetrator, our relationship to him/her, the age(s) we were abused, the duration, the nature, etc. We're dealing with it at different ages, coming from different backgrounds. We have this, and it's caused problems. Despite our infinite differences, we're taking a good look at how those problems affect us in our present lives, and we're fighting to solve them. The road is bumpy, but more often than not, I think it gives us insight into the intricacies of our minds and souls that not many others would have - and we come out stronger, more intelligent, more compassionate, more understanding, more aware...in short, as excruciating as it is, we're becoming better human beings. We're fighting, and we're also reaching out to others and helping them in their battles. We're ending a vicious cycle. I'm proud to be part of this community of men who are (sometimes unconsciously, but tangibly) spreading goodness and making the world a better place.
The ratio of good to bad people in this world will always be tipped in favor of the latter. Always. But that ratio in your own social circle, you can control. And there, and only there, can the balance be favorably tipped, so that those who love you far outnumber those who don't.