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#441965 - 07/24/13 12:10 AM one more down
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3646
Loc: somewhere in Africa
tonight i told my daughter about my childhood and the CSA. i had been feeling the need to do this for some time. but i had a really difficult time getting started. we are visiting with her now and i knew this would be a good time - while staying with her - but it was so hard to get started.

last night there was a TV show on that involved the topic and i had to leave the room and cry - couldn't do it then - was too fragile. but since then, there was another event that gave me more self-confidence. so tonight i told her after dinner.

once i got started, it wasn't too bad. i didn't break down but didn't give too many details either.

she was very understanding - i thought she would be - she has a masters degree in public health and lots of good experience working with hurting people. she cried afterwards and hugged me. she said that she would never have known from the way i succeeded as a father - nice. then asked if i felt better - lighter.

i didn't really feel much of anything except a bit of relief at having gotten it over with - end of the internal pressure. maybe i'll feel something later.

anyway - that is one down - and two more to go. not sure when i will tell them. the other daughter will be easier than the son.

"Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself... And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second's encounter with God and with eternity." - Paulo Coelho

#441967 - 07/24/13 01:01 AM Re: one more down [Re: traveler]
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Registered: 05/16/12
Posts: 1159
Loc: ""

Edited by bodyguard8367 (02/27/14 06:21 PM)

#441970 - 07/24/13 02:17 AM Re: one more down [Re: traveler]
GoldStone Offline

Registered: 05/28/13
Posts: 220
Loc: Far East
poignant response from her. bittersweet.

Edited by GoldStone (07/24/13 02:17 AM)

#441998 - 07/24/13 09:42 AM Re: one more down [Re: traveler]
OCN Offline

Registered: 02/05/13
Posts: 336
Loc: Western Europe
You're golden Lee! Very brave of you and especially what she has said.. "she said that she would never have known from the way i succeeded as a father"
i'd keep that close to my heart!

Every step of disclosure is a new one in my opinion. Every step brings out new levels of 'something'. But its one important step at the time, your step!

You're doing great! Keep it up!!

Edited by OCN (07/24/13 09:42 AM)
Trust me, you are worth it to love yourself!

I now know who I am - I've never been anybody else!

#441999 - 07/24/13 09:46 AM Re: one more down [Re: traveler]
concerned_husky Offline

Registered: 08/29/12
Posts: 646
Originally Posted By: traveler
she cried afterwards and hugged me. she said that she would never have known from the way i succeeded as a father - nice.

That made me cry a bit.


Good luck with your son and your other daughter. They're lucky to have you as a father.

"Only the solitary seek the truth, and they break with all those who don't love it sufficiently." - Boris Pasternak, Doctor Zhivago


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