Vic and BG,
Oh my god, your responses had me laughing out loud at the absurdity of this situation. Because you are both so right. And ya, I am not young, i maybe have 5 years of adult left before I turn the corner towards middle aged. I didn't realize this flirting stuff was a problem until today at therapy, but the more I think about it the more I see truth in it.
So, I'll just change my whole way of being and all will be well. Easy peasy.
Everything you want is on the other side of fear.