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#441785 - 07/22/13 06:03 PM We're Doing More than Just Recovering
concerned_husky Offline
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...is the thought I'm having tonight.

There was definitely something in Matt's post "Thankful" that got me seeing things in a new light. Thank you, Matt. (I did not want to hijack that wonderful thread, so I decided to start a separate one here.)

The more I think about it, the more I realize that the path to recovery is inextricably bound with the journey to becoming a good human being, a good man. I think we all are doing this, and it's actually nothing short of incredible. We all have different backgrounds in CSA. The gender of the perpetrator, our relationship to him/her, the age(s) we were abused, the duration, the nature, etc. We're dealing with it at different ages, coming from different backgrounds. We have this, and it's caused problems. Despite our infinite differences, we're taking a good look at how those problems affect us in our present lives, and we're fighting to solve them. The road is bumpy, but more often than not, I think it gives us insight into the intricacies of our minds and souls that not many others would have - and we come out stronger, more intelligent, more compassionate, more understanding, more aware...in short, as excruciating as it is, we're becoming better human beings. We're fighting, and we're also reaching out to others and helping them in their battles. We're ending a vicious cycle. I'm proud to be part of this community of men who are (sometimes unconsciously, but tangibly) spreading goodness and making the world a better place.
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#441800 - 07/22/13 08:13 PM Re: We're Doing More than Just Recovering [Re: concerned_husky]
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Husky,

I don't have anything to add to this statement. Just wanted to say thanks for posting it and putting these thoughts out there. I think everything you just said is the absolute truth!

Todd
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#441804 - 07/22/13 09:14 PM Re: We're Doing More than Just Recovering [Re: concerned_husky]
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Hi Husky. Good points and good post. I completely agree.

Originally Posted By: concerned_husky
The road is bumpy, but more often than not, I think it gives us insight into the intricacies of our minds and souls that not many others would have


I have always said that I think survivors in general tend to know themselves better than most other people. When you grow up dealing with a lot of isolation, alienation and secrecy, you tend to get to know yourself well. It's just part of how we survived some pretty bad and traumatic stuff. Take care. Peace,

Ken

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#441865 - 07/23/13 11:00 AM Re: We're Doing More than Just Recovering [Re: concerned_husky]
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spot on brother. i agree a thousand times over. painful, tough, excruciating, but we're better for it.

we've already won.
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#441871 - 07/23/13 12:15 PM Re: We're Doing More than Just Recovering [Re: concerned_husky]
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Edited by bodyguard8367 (02/27/14 06:21 PM)

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#441983 - 07/24/13 07:35 AM Re: We're Doing More than Just Recovering [Re: concerned_husky]
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Your post should be part of the welcome materials when a new brother joins this site.

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#442060 - 07/24/13 07:13 PM Re: We're Doing More than Just Recovering [Re: concerned_husky]
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You're God damn right
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