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#441397 - 07/19/13 05:47 PM My Friend...
concerned_husky Offline

Registered: 08/29/12
Posts: 666
The sun has set, and the city is alight;
As usual, I'm alone...smoking a cigar.
Your name is all I think about tonight,
And all of those chats we've shared so far.
I care, you know...I really want to help,
But lately, I feel that I cannot get through;
The closer I come, the louder you yelp,
And slowly, I realize what seems to be true:
Perhaps, I was arrogant and selfish to think,
"I know all the answers, I know how you feel."
But now, I realize, I'm terribly out of sync,
With all of the things that you need to heal.

I love you, my friend...with all of my heart...
...I fear the inevitable will rip me apart.

"What gives light must endure burning." - Viktor E. Frankl

#441490 - 07/20/13 04:59 PM Re: My Friend... [Re: concerned_husky]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3708
Loc: somewhere in Africa
i can sooo relate to this - with the exception of the cigar!

sometimes i think the pain i feel on another's behalf helps to heal my own pain or maybe make it more bearable.
"That you are here - that life exists, and identity; that the powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse. . . What will your verse be?" Robin Williams as John Keating in "Dead Poets Society"

#441492 - 07/20/13 05:00 PM Re: My Friend... [Re: concerned_husky]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 5043
Loc: O Kanada
good stuff.

it is a feeling i get very often.
makes me think about all those people who have tried to help me in the past, but were unable to get through.

i was still listening to them.
even as i argued and cursed and denied.
i was still listening.

what they did for me was noticed, and appreciated.
even though i was unable to acknowledge their care,
i still accepted and received it.

often the big breakthroughs in my life came from finally surrendering to the good advice i had heard years before, that was still echoing in my ears.

i am sure your love for your friend is getting through.
i am certain it is being appreciated.

just be careful, and don't forget to protect yourself while attempting rescue.
we have a saying in first aid...
don't become the second victim.
you have to be a strong swimmer if you want to save someone else from drowning.
you need fire-proofing if you want to pull someone out of a burning building.


#441493 - 07/20/13 05:10 PM Re: My Friend... [Re: victor-victim]
concerned_husky Offline

Registered: 08/29/12
Posts: 666
Originally Posted By: victor-victim
you have to be a strong swimmer if you want to save someone else from drowning.

That, I think, is a quote I'll remember for the rest of my life.

"What gives light must endure burning." - Viktor E. Frankl

#441515 - 07/20/13 07:17 PM Re: My Friend... [Re: concerned_husky]
bey Offline

Registered: 01/28/10
Posts: 259
Loc: canada
The most I cried ever in my life was over a friend, who's story mirrored mine so much, and being unable to help him.
I think it's so sad to see someone hurting and to want to fix it and to find yourself impossibly ill-equipped to fix them. It would be so nice to be able to carry someone's pain for them. Sometimes I think the only thing we can do is to stand with them. But that can seem like too little a lot of the time.
Thanks Husky, I think a lot of people can relate to what you wrote.
Snakes in the grass beneath our feet, rain in the clouds above
Some moments last forever, but some flare out with love, love, love


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