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#441422 - 07/19/13 10:10 PM Re: difference between dealing w abuse and reliving it [Re: DannyT]
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Registered: 09/27/03
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excellent words of wisdom.
good insight.
thanks, i needed that.

this concept has been on the peripheral edge of my radar, but i have not been able to put it into words until you did.

you are absolutely correct when you say that there is a difference between facing my past to improve my future,
and facing my pain as i circle the drain.
but it is a very fine line in a grey area.
i will have to look for it, or set up my own perimeter.

(sorry about the mixed metaphors)

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#441429 - 07/19/13 11:14 PM Re: difference between dealing w abuse and reliving it [Re: DannyT]
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Registered: 04/03/13
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Thanks Victor Victim for bringing this thread forward and Danny T for the original post sharing your wisdom. I needed to hear this, especially this week. Working on moving forward. This gives me some perspective on how to evaluate how I am progressing in my own recovery. Thanks guys.

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#441432 - 07/19/13 11:30 PM Re: difference between dealing w abuse and reliving it [Re: DannyT]
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a lot of past posts i have not seen,
so they are still brand new to me.
when i find one that hammers a nail,
i feel the need to reply.

there is so much valuable material on this website.
something for every survivor at any stage.
it is like digging for jewels,
or diving for pearls.

or, if i may...
we salvage the wreckage of our lives,
to find the buried treasure.

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#459312 - 01/24/14 04:24 AM Re: difference between dealing w abuse and reliving it [Re: DannyT]
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intelligent observation, wise words and sage advice.

thank you, DannyT!

i needed to hear this.
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